The primary model that has been offered for how narcissists abuse their partners is the three-stage idealize-devalue-discard narcissistic abuse cycle.  It has some similarities to the traditional cycle of abuse in domestic violence situations, which was first developed in 1979 by Lenore Walker. Walker’s model was characterized by three phases:...

If you’re swimming in the ocean and happen to get attacked by a shark, you’re lucky if you happen to escape. If the shark turns back around to bite into you again before you’re able to swim to shore, no one asks why you didn’t swim away fast enough or...

It can be difficult to find trauma therapy for narcissistic abuse. Believe me—I know from first-hand experience. That’s why I’m so excited to be able to write this post and say that I have found a potential immediate low-cost option for victims of narcissistic abuse. Here’s why I’m so excited!...

There is a reason why relationships with narcissists are fraudulent. “Victims receive what is known as a ‘double hit’ – they are troubled by the loss of money as well as the loss of a relationship. For some, the loss of the relationship is more significant… This type of fraud...

Once you have gone no-contact, no matter how much you wanted to do it, it may still feel like you have ripped out a part of your own body and you can do nothing but wait for the bleeding to dry up.  There are ways of moving on after going...

Some of the things narcissists say can raise eyebrows, and they might come in packages of grand verbal speeches or in bite-sized pieces that seem out of place. Either way, you might recognize that something seems off, but not always know why.  Often what they say has another meaning because...

I understand everything now. It feels like a grenade just went off. The shrapnel is falling, scattering, and all of the clues are flooding into the right cracks all at once, but too quickly for me to absorb each in isolation. I begged you for answers so many times. But...