A native of Ontario, Canada the author enjoys being a cat mom, a full time freelancer and fiction writer. She has written for plenty of blogs: The Canadian Stutter Society, The Haven, Aroga Yoga, The Hisdoryan, Women Writers Women's Books, Visibly Affirming, Rebelle Society, Historic UK, A Tribe of Women, The Good Men Project, and Elephant Journal. She has also contributed to the No Shame Mighty newsletter and the pandemic made website View From My Window.
My name is Chelsie and I'm 36 years old. I was born and raised in Denver, Colorado, I have no kids or pets and I like to scrapboook and write on my free time. I'm the oldest of 5 kids, I grew up in foster care and I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse.
8 months ago I would have had a very different Bio. I felt happy, strong and content in myself. Right now I'm writing from a shell of myself, but with hope for recovery beginning to grow as I find others who've shared the experience of loving a narcissist.
I have been called an inspiration, survivor and a great story. I think that description is a little exaggerated. I think every person in this world has it within them to wake up and take control of their story, it just depends on when you finally have had enough. I was a victim of terrible childhood abuse, that attracted extreme trauma from external situations (car accidents, broken bones, knife wounds), and coped by my addiction to alcohol. Which in turn, set me up for adult abuse from a narcissist and codependent relationship.
When I "woke up" by finally having enough pain, I had three choices: 1. Kill myself 2. Continue to suffer through life and expect the bad 3. Take my external trauma and heal it internally.
I chose option 3 and today, I am full of love and compassion towards all and for the first time accept and love myself truly who I am regardless of whats going on around me.
I am 45yrs old and a self employed carpenter.I am passionate about nature and natural history.I believe in the "Golden Rule". and I have tried to live my life by that principle.
I Do have my weaknesses. I Will admit to them and I try not to allow them to negatively affect others. I have strong beliefs about morality,equality,and justice.I try to temper these ideals with compassion and understanding. If I believe that an injustice has been committed to myself,to another,to the earth, I am not afraid to stand and fight.I try to choose my battles wisely.I don't know how to fight this battle wisely. The damage that this past "relationship" has left me with has broken me.I don't know how to move forward. I am not the man I used to be.
I can't Stand what I have become.Allowing this "force" into my life is the greatest mistake I have ever made.
I was a fool.I didn't know manipulation,cruelty,and deciet until I allowed this woman into my life.
Learning all I can about Narcissists and their abuse, makes so much sense to me now. I could never put my finger on... what exactly was "wrong" with my husband. He twisted everything so much, I doubted my sanity. It's helping me heal myself, my mind, and validates that all the things I was doing on my own to begin the recovery of narcissistic abuse, were the absolute best things to do, and I was doing them instinctively. I've passed through all the stages, and am now starting to move on. I returned to college (keeping my mind occupied, focused, and engaged), changed habits, became more independent (I had no choice), and made new friends. I have no contact due to his court order as part of the conviction for his crimes against me. I am stronger than I ever knew I was. I have survived! I'm not 100% healed, but I'm well on my way! 🥰read more
Excellent support. Intelligent and sensitive replies. The only way I permanently stayed away from my narcissist of 12... years. Wise advice. Helped me so much through my time of doubt. Also so helpful because I could post in the middle of the night when I couldn’t sleep worrying about something. Always get supportive replies. These members are well read and you get free therapy because others pass on their therapy. The website for this fb page is phenomenal. The best info on narcissism on the Internet!read more
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