The Wicked Witch of the West dispatches them to do her evil deeds.  In fact, in the film The Wizard of Oz, the only purpose of flying monkeys is to carry out her commands. They’re so loyal, all she has to do is wave her arms around and demand something and, mindlessly, off they go to make it happen. Has she cast a spell over them?  Are they just as evil as she is?   At least in the film, we never learn. But they dwell with her in darkness and they do whatever she says. Does this sound familiar? The narcissist...

Can I get real with you for a few minutes? Can we have a talk? Is your relationship with the narcissist ending, but then not really? Are you still breaking up and then getting back together with the narcissist? Does he or she come back around every so often? Do you stay in touch with him or her, or keep the lines of communication open in the hopes that he or she will reach out? Forget about the past for a minute, and how he or she used to treat you at the beginning of the relationship. Let’s ignore in...

One of the most difficult things I’ve had to figure out recently is how to set boundaries again after my abusive relationship ended.  It took me a long time to realize how my ex-boyfriend had dismantled the boundaries I did have. He was able to use to his advantage the confusing misconceptions I had adopted about boundaries. What are Personal Boundaries? Boundaries are our standards for what treatment we expect from others and the behavior that we will not tolerate because it violates our human rights. For example, boundaries can include the rights to make independent decisions; to have our...

If you’ve ever gone away on a trip with a narcissist, you’re probably familiar with the ways they can end up spoiling the beautiful plans the two of you made together. But why do narcissists often end up ruining vacations? Maybe the narcissist promised to take you on the trip of a lifetime. Or maybe it was your trip originally and the narcissist invited himself or herself along, spinning a tale about how wonderful it would be for the two of you to spend some time together.  Yet what gets sold as a dream can end up turning into a...

I am 45yrs old and a self employed carpenter.I am passionate about nature and natural history.I believe in the "Golden Rule". and I have tried to live my life by that principle. I Do have my weaknesses. I Will admit to them and I try not to allow them to negatively affect others. I have strong beliefs about morality,equality,and justice.I try to temper these ideals with compassion and understanding. If I believe that an injustice has been committed to myself,to another,to the earth, I am not afraid to stand and fight.I try to choose my battles wisely.I don't know how to fight this battle wisely. The damage that this past "relationship" has left me with has broken me.I don't know how to move forward. I am not the man I used to be. I can't Stand what I have become.Allowing this "force" into my life is the greatest mistake I have ever made. I was a fool.I didn't know manipulation,cruelty,and deciet until I allowed this woman into my life.

How do they do it?  How do narcissists walk away from their romantic relationships not only undamaged from them but with everyone around them either believing they are the “good guys or gals” while we are the ones left traumatized, shell-shocked for months or years by their emotional abuse? They may even go on to torment us for years on end while they can still manage to make other people believe that they were the ones who were victimized.  Narcissists can get away with the things they do because they take advantage of cognitive psychological biases we all have and...

I'm in my twentieth year of this hell and want to tell my story but I've hesitated thinking that no one would ever believe what I've been through . I'm frozen now forever