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  • Happy Valentine's Day. Please do something for your own self-care today and remember how much you deserve it! You are worth your own time and attention. Nothing is more valuable than that. ❤
  • The group is now open! I have tried to create a space that embodies the same values I infuse into the articles and resources I create of respect, non-judgment and empowerment. You can join this closed group directly from the Fairy Tale Shadows page or search groups for Fairy Tale Shadows-Narc Abuse Recovery to have private and interactive discussions with each other about your experiences. You may have a space for this already or you may be one of the people who asked me to create a group. If you are a survivor of narcissistic abuse, you are welcome! ❤❤❤
  • I post this because it's so easy to get caught up in this idea that they know you inside and out. They implant this feeling that they *are* inside you. But if you really think about it, do they? They spend the majority of the time talking about themselves and when you speak if it's after the love bombing phase they get bored and often have something mocking to say or may even find some way to use it against you later. They learn enough to mirror back to you what will make you fall in love and they only let you grow and change enough to reflect back themselves to them. They try to crush the light and dreams out of you while still somehow maintaining this illusion that they know you so well and are the only ones who can validate and accept you. They make you keep giving them more validation to get less and less of theirs. What did or do they really know about you? How to make you fall in love with them. But do they know YOU?
  • I've had many people asking me to create a group for a long time. I didn't have the knowledge or energy to do it last year, but now I'm looking forward to having our own private space where we can share stories and communicate with one another! Thank you for your support. #narcissisticabuserecovery
  • I literally just spit out my water. 😂😂 The new politically correct term for narcissist or sociopath: mental health influencer. So now we know.
  • I like this quote a lot because it highlights how some of the abusive behavior works and how it remains hidden. You end up disliking people you've never met or that you used to like and they've been turned against you. The person who appears the calmest, who agrees with us the most, who we are least likely to be mad at is the one responsible for the chaos, although they are agreeing with everyone else too when we aren't around. Do you have people like this in your life? People you dislike and don't know why? People who are always around to support your dislike of them? #narcissistabuserecovery
  • I've been thinking a lot about all these different abusive behaviors that took place. There were just so many of them. I couldn't see the raindrops clearly for the storm, and I couldn't tell it was a storm because I was forced to focus on each little raindrop so I wouldn't notice I was drowning. #narcissisticabuserecovery
  • It's getting a lot easier. I have a dream the world will one day know what this is. A core element of how it is maintained is now illegal in the U.K. and Ireland (coercive control) so the days are numbered for the tipping point to be reached.

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