I was once obsessed with the question, “Can a narcissist fall in love?” I couldn’t stop thinking about it. Out of all the questions we have, isn’t that one of the key questions about narcissists that we want to try to answer? If we could crack this one, it feels like everything else might fall into place. It gets to the very core of everything we endured in the relationship. The relationship. That is, after all, why we were there: love. The  Ultimate Question: Can a Narcissist Love? Sometimes it seemed as if we were experiencing the purest and most true form...

This narcissist dictionary was developed as a comprehensive resource to explain concepts you may encounter while reading about narcissistic abuse. It is updated periodically to reflect emerging research and the growing use of terminology for defining narcissism, narcissists and narcissistic abuse. It is divided into the following sections: Diagnostic Terms Related to Narcissism and Narcissistic Abuse Terms Used to Explain the Narcissist’s Behavior Terms Describing Roles of People in the Narcissist’s Life Terms Related to Narcissistic Abuse Tactics Terms Used to Describe Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Diagnostic Terms for Defining Narcissism and Narcissistic Abuse  Anti-Social Personality Disorder (ASPD).  A type of...

8 months ago I would have had a very different Bio. I felt happy, strong and content in myself. Right now I'm writing from a shell of myself, but with hope for recovery beginning to grow as I find others who've shared the experience of loving a narcissist.

If you’re with a narcissist, you may be dreading the holidays. You may already be familiar with some of the ways they try to ruin any festive or fun plans you’ve tried to make.   Here are some ways to survive the narcissist during the holiday season and make it through to the next year with your sanity intact. Even if you’re in no-contact, it’s important to keep in mind that holidays are a prime season for trying to pull ex-partners back into the web. Therefore, I’ve included a special section on how to arm yourself against the holiday hoover....

Narcissists ruin holidays and make what should be a joyful time of year into a time of tears and anxiety–and sometimes even fear.  The holidays can be a painful time of year for people who are in relationships with narcissists. It can feel as if no matter how your relationship has been going with them before the holidays even start, they can find a way to use this time of year to cause additional pain. By taking advantage of the cultural norms and expectations surrounding holidays or the disruption to normal routines, they can find creative ways to hurt and...

Sometimes something will happen, and then out of the blue, there it is. There’s my story staring me in the face. You know what I’m talking about. Your story. The story that explains why you do what you do. Why your habits are your habits—even your bad ones. Why you tell yourself the things you do to get through the day, even when a part of you knows those things are lies. Why you can’t forgive yourself for some things, even when you’ve forgiven other people for worse. Why no matter where you go, you follow yourself around like a...

Mental health counselor, thirty years. Married since 03...long history of bad relationships and trying to divorce a lying schemer.