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  • Love this quote.
  • You are a warrior. ❤❤❤
  • If a narcissist wants to hoover they will find a way because they have no boundaries and feel entitled to intrude into your life any way they can come up with, without regard to how it makes you feel. She blocked him and the only way he can communicate with her is to keep making fake Snapchat accounts that have messages in them and trying to add her so she will see the messages.
  • Even though I understand it now intellectually (they can't bear the shame of their wrongdoings) it's so difficult to understand on an emotional level how someone who is repeatedly destructive to others and and in the same ways maintains this view because they do nice things every once in a while. EDIT: Meaning the narcissist thinks of himself or herself as a nice person too. One of their favorite lines is: "Nothing I do is ever good enough for you." And you're left never getting anything resolved. They cry to other people about how they can't make you happy and leave out all the lying, abuse, cheating, gaslighting, and everything else.
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  • h/t Shahira Arabi
  • Happy Valentine's Day. Please do something for your own self-care today and remember how much you deserve it! You are worth your own time and attention. Nothing is more valuable than that. ❤
  • The group is now open! I have tried to create a space that embodies the same values I infuse into the articles and resources I create of respect, non-judgment and empowerment. You can join this closed group directly from the Fairy Tale Shadows page or search groups for Fairy Tale Shadows-Narc Abuse Recovery to have private and interactive discussions with each other about your experiences. You may have a space for this already or you may be one of the people who asked me to create a group. If you are a survivor of narcissistic abuse, you are welcome! ❤❤❤
  • I post this because it's so easy to get caught up in this idea that they know you inside and out. They implant this feeling that they *are* inside you. But if you really think about it, do they? They spend the majority of the time talking about themselves and when you speak if it's after the love bombing phase they get bored and often have something mocking to say or may even find some way to use it against you later. They learn enough to mirror back to you what will make you fall in love and they only let you grow and change enough to reflect back themselves to them. They try to crush the light and dreams out of you while still somehow maintaining this illusion that they know you so well and are the only ones who can validate and accept you. They make you keep giving them more validation to get less and less of theirs. What did or do they really know about you? How to make you fall in love with them. But do they know YOU?

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