Healing from narcissistic abuse is a process, and the journey to recovery has many stages.  We can only begin to heal when the realizations we have about our narcissistic ex-partner lead us to an enlightened view of the relationship.   Yet, we can get stuck before we have these realizations if we do the wrong things. Below are seven things we should try not to do so we don’t get stuck on the way to a full recovery.  What to Avoid as You’re Healing from Narcissistic Abuse It’s tempting to fall into the traps below. Sometimes not doing them can...

If you’re with a narcissist, you may be dreading the holidays. You may already be familiar with some of the ways they try to ruin any festive or fun plans you’ve tried to make.  [Read: How Narcissists Ruin Holidays: It’s Not Your Imagination] Here are some ways to survive the narcissist during the holiday season and make it through to the next year with your sanity intact. Even if you’re in no-contact, it’s important to keep in mind that holidays are a prime season for trying to pull ex-partners back into the web. Therefore, I’ve included a special section on how...

A native of Ontario, Canada the author enjoys being a cat mom, a full time freelancer and fiction writer. She has written for plenty of blogs: The Canadian Stutter Society, The Haven, Aroga Yoga, The Hisdoryan, Women Writers Women's Books, Visibly Affirming, Rebelle Society, Historic UK, A Tribe of Women, The Good Men Project, and Elephant Journal. She has also contributed to the No Shame Mighty newsletter and the pandemic made website View From My Window.

There are ten things I’d like to put in a letter to the narcissist who destroyed me. These are things I never thought I would be able to say when our relationship first ended. Once upon a time, I thought the emotional hell of breaking up and going no-contact with a narcissist would scald me alive.  Then the intensity faded to a slow burn and now the entire relationship feels almost like a fever dream.   Was that actually me back there? Yes… and no. Oh, if he could see me now. Too bad for him — he never will. A...

My name is Chelsie and I'm 36 years old. I was born and raised in Denver, Colorado, I have no kids or pets and I like to scrapboook and write on my free time. I'm the oldest of 5 kids, I grew up in foster care and I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse.

Understanding how to get over a narcissist is a lot easier than actually doing it.  However, before we can do it, we must first become aware of the path to complete recovery.  It starts with a question about what is keeping us tied to the narcissist. To get over a narcissist, we must ask ourselves, “How is it possible to miss someone who has damaged us and devastated our lives so carelessly?” Why Getting Over a Narcissist is So Hard It’s possible to miss someone who has abused us because love-bombing is abuse too. When our partners love-bombed us, it...

Looking back, my process for going no-contact with my ex-boyfriend actually started over two years before it came to a complete end. I didn’t understand what was happening to me at the time, nor would I have been able to explain it to anyone else. There were times when I wanted desperately to leave, but I couldn’t envision any possible future without him, and there were times when I wanted nothing more than to stay and forced myself forget the things that had made me want to leave. There were times when I also wanted him to leave, and times...