If you’re swimming in the ocean and happen to get attacked by a shark, you’re lucky if you happen to escape. If the shark turns back around to bite into you again before you’re able to swim to shore, no one asks why you didn’t swim away fast enough or why you let the shark attack a second time.
I left my abuser dozens of times before it was finally over.
Long before then, there had been two of me: the one that prayed for it to end and the one that prayed it never would–the one that wished desperately for him to put an end to all of the madness once and for all, to put a foundation beneath us and surround me with truth.
It was only afterward that I realized he was surrounding me with the truth all along. It’s easy to blame myself for not seeing it. Yet he did everything he could to blind me from it by infusing false slivers of hope into our time spent together that he intertwined with those desperate wishes he’d been the one to put there in the first place, way back in the beginning. Before things turned bad.
I left my abuser dozens of times before it was finally over, but he just wouldn’t go away.
Thinking of Abusers as Predators
Everyone tells you to develop an exit strategy (or if they’re ignorant about abusive relationships, they just ask why you don’t walk away). What they don’t tell you is what to do when the abuser comes back.
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- Taking Your Life Back After a Relationship With a Narcissist – Free Recovery Toolkit
- Comprehensive Narcissistic Abuse Dictionary
- The Best Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
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