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Leaving a Narcissist Sometimes Means Forcing The Narcissist to Leave You

If you’re swimming in the ocean and happen to get attacked by a shark, you’re lucky if you happen to escape. If the shark turns back around to bite into you again before you’re able to swim to shore, no one asks why you didn’t swim away fast enough or why you let the shark attack a second time.

I left my abuser dozens of times before it was finally over.

Long before then, there had been two of me: the one that prayed for it to end and the one that prayed it never would–the one that wished desperately for him to put an end to all of the madness once and for all, to put a foundation beneath us and surround me with truth.

It was only afterward that I realized he was surrounding me with the truth all along. It’s easy to blame myself for not seeing it. Yet he did everything he could to blind me from it by infusing false slivers of hope into our time spent together that he intertwined with those desperate wishes he’d been the one to put there in the first place, way back in the beginning. Before things turned bad.

I left my abuser dozens of times before it was finally over, but he just wouldn’t go away.

Thinking of Abusers as Predators

Everyone tells you to develop an exit strategy (or if they’re ignorant about abusive relationships, they just ask why you don’t walk away). What they don’t tell you is what to do when the abuser comes back.

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Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead is a narcissistic abuse survivor who has become a strong advocate for finding your unique voice and using it to help others find theirs.

One Comment

  1. This information is great. It helped me understand my ex husband. I suffered 5 years of narcissistic abuse and I finally got out. I am now suffering with the mental emotional and psychological pain. I am trying to heal now with no contact and raising our daughter on my own. This information is very helpful to help me heal

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