Category: Narcissist Abuse Recovery

It’s been nearly one year since I went no-contact with my ex-boyfriend. After narcissistic abuse, nothing feels normal for a long time. I remember the end and what precipitated it and I remember the gravity of knowing in those last moments we were speaking to one another that it would...

Some people say survivors are narcissist abuse are codependent. In this article, I will disagree and explain why. Yet if you have benefited from the term “codependency” and feel it does a proper job explaining your situation and helping you move past the relationship with the narcissist, this article is...

Step into the funhouse. The key feature of narcissistic abuse that distinguishes it from other types of abuse is the narcissist’s intricate construction of a false reality to manipulate people in social and romantic relationships. In the funhouse, when you catch a glimpse of yourself in one of the mirrors, you...

Where are you in your relationship with a narcissist? Are you in a half-alive state in that shadowy area beyond the relationship periphery, slowly smothering in their death grip where they won’t release you and give you back your life but neither will they reel you in and breathe into...

One of the things that helped me the most in the aftermath of the long, strange, exhilarating, painful relationship I had with my ex-boyfriend was learning to think as he did. It’s not easy and it’s not pretty, but it has been crucial in my recovery from the relationship. At...

Elinor Greenberg, a psychologist who specializes in Narcissistic Personality Disorder and has a strong understanding of what motivates narcissists, wrote a very good article on recovering from narcissistic abuse recently. In it, she describes an exercise that survivors of narcissistic abuse can take to start healing from it. The main...

Not long ago, I went skydiving for the first time. The whole ordeal included a long, shaky ride in a tiny plane that zig-zagged 10,000 feet into the air. I had about twenty minutes to contemplate my stupidity as I watched the earth flattening out below us from the clear...