The Internet is a playground for narcissists. While we all love it and what it can do for us and couldn’t imagine our lives without it, the nature of the Internet provides narcissists with the biggest prop in their act and the strongest weapon in their arsenal. Ironically, despite the fact that it all takes place virtually, which tends to make things more ambiguous, it makes the false version of reality narcissists construct just a little more real.  This happens by allowing them to cast just enough light and shadow in all the right places so that the ambiguity can...

In this article, I write about psychopaths and narcissists interchangeably, as they both lack empathy and remorse. The conclusion of this article can be applied to both for this reason. In the 1970s, Ted Bundy brutally murdered somewhere between thirty and a hundred or more women. I have been pondering for a while now: what is it about Ted Bundy the psychopath that makes him different from psychopaths that do not kill? I have sought out the answer in the research I have read. FACT: Bundy had a girlfriend during the entire stretch of time he was murdering women, a...

*This article applies also for husbands, girlfriends, and wives. Written with love for all those out there struggling. I have been there. Don’t let anyone ever tell you it should be easy or make you feel like it’s your fault. “Narcissists form powerful bonds with their partners that are difficult to break and, on average, it takes seven attempts to leave before finally succeeding. Understanding how narcissists manipulate you to keep you tied to the relationship can give you the leverage you need to prepare yourself to break up and go no-contact… Read more here: https://www.bolde.com/ugly-truth-cant-leave-narcissist-boyfriend/ Please note that it...

Earlier this year, I had a ribcage injury involving a couple of my ribs. Thankfully, it wasn’t as serious as I thought it was going to be at first, but breathing and sleeping were pretty painful and difficult for the first couple of weeks especially and it took about six weeks for me to feel completely back to normal again. The injury was accidental and occurred because of my own stupidity. “Did anyone give you this injury? Push you? Hit you?” They kept asking at the hospital, and I knew what they really wanted to know. I thought of everything...

One of the most difficult things about trying to explain relationships with narcissists is explaining even to ourselves why we don’t leave sooner. What we often have not recognized fully and do not give ourselves enough credit for is that leaving them isn’t just physical. Learning how to deal with a narcissist at the end of a relationship means we must leave them in our minds as well. In addition to all of the difficult steps we often have to take to prepare our physical environments for a different life without them, our mentalities must be prepared for the loss....

If it wasn’t clear from the title, I’d like to warn anyone going through the turmoil of breaking up with a narcissist that what I write here about narcissists and their motivations so starkly may feel harsh and painful to read.  I write it only with the best of intentions, hoping it will help others as the knowledge eventually did me.  Being with a narcissist is an extremely painful experience that keeps you stuck for months or years in confusion about what happened and can leave you unable to trust yourself. You may doubt your own memories of the relationship...

I am unsure if I can adequately put this piece of my story into words. Everyone who has been through a relationship like this one understands how you can really only talk meaningfully about a piece of it at a time– and yet even then, trying to adequately convey what happened sometimes is like trying to hold water in your hand. If I can’t put it adequately into words, I know that you who read this and have been through one of these relationships are the only ones who will come close to understanding what I intend to say. This...