A native of Ontario, Canada the author enjoys being a cat mom, a full time freelancer and fiction writer. She has written for plenty of blogs: The Canadian Stutter Society, The Haven, Aroga Yoga, The Hisdoryan, Women Writers Women's Books, Visibly Affirming, Rebelle Society, Historic UK, A Tribe of Women, The Good Men Project, and Elephant Journal. She has also contributed to the No Shame Mighty newsletter and the pandemic made website View From My Window.

There are ten things I’d like to put in a letter to the narcissist who destroyed me. These are things I never thought I would be able to say when our relationship first ended. Once upon a time, I thought the emotional hell of breaking up and going no-contact with a narcissist would scald me alive.  Then the intensity faded to a slow burn and now the entire relationship feels almost like a fever dream.   Was that actually me back there? Yes… and no. Oh, if he could see me now. Too bad for him — he never will. A...

My name is Chelsie and I'm 36 years old. I was born and raised in Denver, Colorado, I have no kids or pets and I like to scrapboook and write on my free time. I'm the oldest of 5 kids, I grew up in foster care and I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse.

Understanding how to get over a narcissist is a lot easier than actually doing it.  However, before we can do it, we must first become aware of the path to complete recovery.  It starts with a question about what is keeping us tied to the narcissist. To get over a narcissist, we must ask ourselves, “How is it possible to miss someone who has damaged us and devastated our lives so carelessly?” Why Getting Over a Narcissist is So Hard It’s possible to miss someone who has abused us because love-bombing is abuse too. When our partners love-bombed us, it...

Looking back, my process for going no-contact with my ex-boyfriend actually started over two years before it came to a complete end. I didn’t understand what was happening to me at the time, nor would I have been able to explain it to anyone else. There were times when I wanted desperately to leave, but I couldn’t envision any possible future without him, and there were times when I wanted nothing more than to stay and forced myself forget the things that had made me want to leave. There were times when I also wanted him to leave, and times...

Part of the reason why it’s so hard to break up with a narcissist is that the abusive dynamic with a narcissist is formed through a series of mostly small interactions over a long period of time.   Those interactions affect us in many ways and the reasons why we stay bound to our narcissistic partners even when we want to leave become complicated. Here are six important concepts that explain narcissistic abuse in relationships. Why We Can’t Break Up with a Narcissist  The methods narcissists use are the same ones advertisers use, the same ones casinos use to entice visitors...

This resource contains a playlist of recovery songs to empower and validate you as you heal from any type of abuse, but particularly from the manipulation of narcissistic abuse.  This is a list created by survivors for survivors — I’ve added many songs over the years as readers have written to me and asked me to add them.  They go all the way back to the 1970s and cover all decades in between up to the music of today.  The genres span pop, country, hip-hop, electronic, and hard rock.  Below each song title, I’ve added a few of the lyrics....