Living Through and Recovering From a Relationship with a Narcissist

Main Menu

Recovery Songs: A Narcissistic Abuse Song Playlist

Comments Off on Recovery Songs: A Narcissistic Abuse Song Playlist Home ยป Recovery Songs: A Narcissistic Abuse Song Playlist

Share :

This resource contains a playlist of recovery songs to empower and validate you as you heal from any type of abuse, but particularly from the manipulation of narcissistic abuse.

The songs go all the way back to the 70s and cover all decades in between up to the music of today.

The genres span pop, country, hip-hop, electronic, and hard rock. If you’re a music fan, you’ll probably recognize many of these songs. There may be a few surprises in here that you’ve never heard. I’ve started to receive songs suggestions from readers that I’m adding to the playlist so it’s growing.

I encourage you to try out each song on the list to see what might resonate with you, even if some don’t tend to come from your favorite genres (unless of course a song is triggering or holds difficult memories for you).

You might find a new favorite go-to when you’re feeling especially sad, vulnerable, or nostalgic about the relationship. I did! 

There are two ways to listen. You can review each song individually on this page to find ones that you like. Or, at the bottom of the page, I’ve included a link to the playlist if you’d like to listen to it straight through. 

NOTE:  This is a NSFW playlist!  There are some explicit lyrics in some of these songs and some of the videos are also not for general audiences. If you find any of the lyrics offensive or they do not fit your situation, please skip them. I’ve noted with a * the songs with explicit lyrics.

Also, if the genders of the singer or the pronouns in the song don’t apply to your situation, it is always worthwhile simply to do a thought exercise and substitute where appropriate.

Recovery Songs for Abuse

1. Praying by Kesha 

*2. Be Careful by Cardi B

3. Best Thing I Never Had by Beyonce

4. Hush Hush by Pussycat Dolls

5. Same Old Love by Selena Gomez

6. Fighter by Christina Aguilera

7. I’m Still Standing by Elton John

8. Take a Bow by Rihanna

*9. I Don’t F*ck With You by Big Sean

10. You’ll See by Madonna

*11. F*cking Perfect by P!nk

12. Call Me When You’re Sober by Evanescence

13. Since U Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson

14. I Don’t Care Anymore by Phil Collins

15. Jar of Hearts by Christina Perri

16. Titanium by Sia and David Guetta

17. Survivor by Destiny’s Child

18. Warrior by Demi Lavato

19. Cold-Hearted by Paula Abdul

20. Look What You Made Me Do by Taylor Swift

21. Brand New Me by Alicia Keys

22. We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together by Taylor Swift

23. You’re So Vain by Carly Simon

*24. Sorry by Beyonce

25. Cry Me a River by Justin Timberlake

26. Bad Blood by Taylor Swift and Kendrick Lamar

27. Narcissus by Alanis Morissette

28. Set Fire to the Rain by Adele

29. Liar by Henry Rollins

30. Mean by Taylor Swift

31. I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor

32. The Power of Goodbye by Madonna

33. I’m Movin On by Rascal Flatts

34. Rolling in the Deep by Adele

35. Somebody That I Used to Know by Gotye

36. Leave (Get Out) by JoJo

*37. F*uck You by CeeLo Green

*38. You Oughta Know by Alanis Morissette

*39. Needed Me by Rihanna

40. I Won’t Back Down by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers

41. Love Yourself by Justin Bieber

42. Just a Creep by Dum Dum Girls

43. Bed of Lies by Nicki Minaj and Skylar Grey

 44. Fire Burns by Nicki Minaj

45. You Don’t Do It for Me Anymore by Demi Lovato

46. Don’t Kill My Vibe by Sigrid

47. The Breakup Song by Francesca Battistelli

48. Don’t Call Me Up by Mabel

49. Gratitude by VNV Nation

50. Now That You’re Gone by Sheryl Crow

51. It Don’t Hurt by Sheryl Crow


If you’d like to hear or save the entire playlist, here’s the link:  

Songs About Narcissism: A Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Playlist (YouTube), Fairy Tale Shadows Channel


Please note that everyone’s experience is different and it’s not possible to predict what memories someone will attach to a particular song.

If you have ideas about other songs that should be on this list, leave a comment or send me an email and I’ll review the song.

I’d rather not add songs that describe only what it’s like to be in the heights of love with them or the throes of despair unless it’s also accompanied by an empowering message.

Also, let’s avoid any obvious songs that might send anyone back into the arms of a narcissist or spiraling into depression. They make good choices for showing others what narcissistic abuse is like, but not for recovering from the relationship.  Thank you!


Thank you to all of you have sent email to add songs to the playlist!  


You may also enjoy…

Thirteen Films About Narcissists

The Best Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Free Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Toolkit!