This resource contains a playlist of recovery songs to empower and validate you as you heal from any type of abuse, but particularly from the manipulation of narcissistic abuse.
The songs go all the way back to the 70s and cover all decades in between up to the music of today.
The genres span pop, country, hip-hop, electronic, and hard rock. If you’re a music fan, you’ll probably recognize many of these songs. There may be a few surprises in here that you’ve never heard. I’ve started to receive songs suggestions from readers that I’m adding to the playlist so it’s growing.
I encourage you to try out each song on the list to see what might resonate with you, even if some don’t tend to come from your favorite genres (unless of course a song is triggering or holds difficult memories for you).
You might find a new favorite go-to when you’re feeling especially sad, vulnerable, or nostalgic about the relationship. I did!
There are two ways to listen. You can review each song individually on this page to find ones that you like. Or, at the bottom of the page, I’ve included a link to the playlist if you’d like to listen to it straight through.
NOTE: This is a NSFW playlist! There are some explicit lyrics in some of these songs and some of the videos are also not for general audiences. If you find any of the lyrics offensive or they do not fit your situation, please skip them. I’ve noted with a * the songs with explicit lyrics.
Also, if the genders of the singer or the pronouns in the song don’t apply to your situation, it is always worthwhile simply to do a thought exercise and substitute where appropriate.
Recovery Songs for Abuse
If you’d like to hear or save the entire playlist, here’s the link:
Songs About Narcissism: A Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Playlist (YouTube), Fairy Tale Shadows Channel
Please note that everyone’s experience is different and it’s not possible to predict what memories someone will attach to a particular song.
If you have ideas about other songs that should be on this list, leave a comment or send me an email and I’ll review the song.
I’d rather not add songs that describe only what it’s like to be in the heights of love with them or the throes of despair unless it’s also accompanied by an empowering message.
Also, let’s avoid any obvious songs that might send anyone back into the arms of a narcissist or spiraling into depression. They make good choices for showing others what narcissistic abuse is like, but not for recovering from the relationship. Thank you!
Thank you to all of you have sent email to add songs to the playlist!