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How to Get Trauma Therapy for Narcissistic Abuse–Fast!

It can be difficult to find trauma therapy for narcissistic abuse. Believe me—I know from first-hand experience.

That’s why I’m so excited to be able to write this post and say that I have found a potential immediate low-cost option for victims of narcissistic abuse.

Here’s why I’m so excited!

If you have had any of the following issues while trying to find a narcissistic abuse recovery therapist (I know I have), this option may be for you:

  • You can’t find a trauma therapist.
  • You found a trauma therapist, but he or she isn’t taking new clients or the waiting list is so long you don’t even know when you’ll get in.
  • You don’t have insurance or find it impossible to afford traditional therapy.
  • You’ve seen some of the online courses for recovering from narcissistic abuse, but you feel overwhelmed by all the options.
  • You like the idea of taking a course for recovering from narcissistic abuse, but you’d still like to talk to a therapist about it and you don’t know how you’ll afford both.
  • You want to try out a service or therapist before actually spending money on it.
  • You don’t think talking to a therapist once a week will be often enough, but you can’t afford to go more often.
  • You want the assurance that you are talking to a professional or want evidence-based or specific treatment that you know will be effective.

Well, guess what? 

There is an online therapy option that will immediately resolve any combination of these problems so that you can begin immediately healing from the trauma of narcissistic abuse using evidence-based treatment designed specifically to treat trauma.


My Story Trying to Find Therapy for Narcissistic Abuse



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I’ve been there.

There was a time I spent nine months first seeking out a trauma therapist, then with my name on a waiting list. In the meantime, I watched videos, read articles, and signed up for online talk therapy.  

It got me through the waiting period, but I felt so lost, I had pretty much withdrawn from life itself during that time period. What if I’d had something more targeted to the trauma I was going through during that time?

How would that have changed my life during that time?

And–I mean, I love my therapist–but would it have changed my life so much that I would have not even have needed to see a therapist face-to-face at all?

I’ve had many survivors write to me to tell me they are having many of the same issues I had: being unable to find a therapist; long waiting lists; confusion about options; and even therapists who don’t understand or blame them or unfocused therapy. 

I recently decided to do a little research and I found an option I wish I’d known about before as it would have changed everything:

How Can Treat Narcissistic Abuse? 

One of the main things that makes unique is that it targets therapy for specific mental health issues, unlike the other online therapy options I’d tried in the past.  

For narcissistic abuse, this is good news because they have a program that specifically targets Posttraumatic Stress Disorder.

In addition, it’s the only online therapy program that uses a specific form of therapy to treat clients, beyond talk therapy. The therapists at use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)¹ specifically designed to treat Posttraumatic Stress Disorder.  

When you work with a therapist who targets and specializes in what you need help with, you can start to focus immediately on recovery. 

So I am really excited because not only is it trauma-focused, you can sign up immediately (no waiting list), get a 14-day trial to see if it will work for you, and get 20% off the first month.


What Is Included?

Okay, here is where I was just blown away.  Take a look. This is what you get when you sign up: 

  • A DEDICATED THERAPIST: Your therapist is professional, licensed, and qualified to treat you for trauma when you specify that you’d like to be treated for PTSD. You can get daily support from your therapist, if needed, Monday through Friday.
  • READING MATERIAL AND HANDS-ON TOOLS: If you sign up for PTSD treatment, you will be placed into a treatment progrtherapy for narcissistic abuseam that consists of eight sections of interactive online material, including exercises to try, that requires your complete engagement. And you can work at your own pace, spending hours a day in practice or a couple of hours a week. There’s no time crunch or time limit.
  • WORKSHEETS AND THERAPIST FEEDBACK: In each section, you will have worksheets to complete, again at your own pace, that will require you to discuss your thoughts and feelings. But this is not just you talking into a void. Your therapist will respond within 24 hours and provide feedback on what you write, and use the worksheets in individual sessions you schedule. Unlike a course you may enroll in, your interaction with your therapist will keep you engaged, disciplined, and on track.
  • LIVE CHAT AND DEDICATED THERAPY SESSIONS:  Your subscription type can enable you to book appointments each week to chat live with your therapist on an ongoing basis. This mimics traditional face-to-face therapy in that you can anticipate regular sessions to work through long-term issues and develop structure.
  • MESSAGING: You can also send messages to your therapist in addition to the dedicated therapy sessions in some subscription plans and the ongoing feedback in the worksheets. You have access to your therapist at any time Monday-Friday, so you are almost always able to reach out in case the time between live therapy sessions feels too long to wait out. In other words, you have the best of all worlds contact-wise.
  • JOURNAL: A self-contained journal is also included, in which you can record your thoughts for use in your sessions or use to help you decrease negative emotions or track your thoughts over time to use in conjunction with CBT exercises.
  • ACTIVITY PLAN: Use the planner to structure your time and stay on track by planning your day and scheduling things that will help you to avoid negative thoughts, stick to your goals, and avoid doing things that you might regret later.
  • FORUM: You will also have access to a private, anonymous online community where you can open up and talk to others who are going through some of the same things you are.
  • YOGA INSTRUCTOR: Yes, you read that correctly. has an online yoga studio so you can add mindfulness, meditation, and yoga to your recovery program.

 Want to try it out for yourself to see what it’s like?  Here’s the introductory video:



Do you see what I mean?  I really could not believe how holistic this program felt when I tried it out for myself.



Ready to sign up?  CLICK HERE TO GET 20% OFF AND A 14-DAY FREE TRIAL 


So How Does Compare to Other Online Therapy?

As I said, I had tried other online therapy in the past when I was on the waiting list for a trauma therapist.  These are the major differences between and two of its major competitors.


 Online-Therapy.comBetter HelpTalk Space
Offers live chatXXX
Offers appointmentsXXX
Offers messagingXXX
24 hour availabilityXXX
Reviewed or advised by mental health professionalsXXX
Video ChattingComing soonXX
Phone ChattingComing soonX
Offers specific treatment for PTSDX
Offers evidence-based treatmentX
Provides outside materials and exercises between chat sessionsX
Additional features such as yoga and activity calendarX
Forum for interacting with othersX
Free trialX


Summing Up:  The Pros and Cons

No therapy program is going to be for everyone and I’ve tried to be as honest and up-front as possible about what this program is like, what it includes, and why I like it so much, especially compared to its biggest competitors. 

To sum up, here are the biggest pros and cons of for survivors of narcissistic abuse looking for a trauma therapist to help them recover.


  • Specialized, evidence-based treatment for PTSD
  • Offers comprehensive hybrid treatment (both therapy and coursework/exercises)
  • CBT is evidence-based to treat trauma
  • License mental health professional who will be matched to you if you sign up for trauma treatment 
  • Programs developed by mental health professionals and are endorsed by respected medical professionals
  • Wide variety of types of contact available with the therapist available five days per week, depending on what type of subscription you sign up for: live chat, dedicated therapy sessions, messaging, feedback on worksheets
  • Dedicated therapy appointments available, which simulates the structure of traditional face-to-face therapy
  • Forums for talking with other people who may be going through similar issues
  • Other features that augment recovery are included or built-in, such as the yoga teacher as well as others
  • A 14-day free trial–trials are no longer offered at either of the other two major competitors


  • No video or phone sessions available, although the company is currently working on bringing these to clients in the short-term
  • No mobile app


So my final verdict: if you’ve been looking for something to try and haven’t been able to find the right option, if you haven’t been able to find a trauma therapist, or haven’t been able to afford one, this may be worth a try. 





¹What is Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy?

If you’re not familiar with CBT, it’s an evidence-based treatment that can help reduce anxiety in a short period of time. It’s based on the idea that the thoughts we have cause our feelings, and that by changing how we think, we can change how we feel even if our situation is still the same.

The program developed at for PTSD uses CBT to guide you through traumatic memories and painful situations with the help of the carefully-selected therapist under controlled conditions at your own pace. 

Cognitive-behavioral therapy has been proven to be very effective at having long-term results at changing our behavioral patterns because it gives us concrete steps we can use to make changes in our lives so that we can start thinking and acting in different ways.

For those of us who have been in a relationship with a narcissist, changing how we think is so important because so much of how we were abused was mental and emotional.

But… what about therapy online? Is getting trauma therapy online even effective?

When I looked at the research, I was thrilled to find that studies show that CBT works just as well online as it does in face-to-face therapy (Anderson et al., 2015).



Please note that this post does not qualify as medical or therapeutic advice. The opinions in this post are strictly my own as a consumer of the services described above and should be taken as such.  They are not a substitute for emergency care. If you have an emergency, please call:

  • 911 in the U.S. or Canada
  • 112/999 in the U.K or Ireland
  • 000 in Australia

In addition, the following resources are available for additional emergency assistance:

  • U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233 –  (live chat live 24/7)
  • U.K. National Domestic Violence Hotline – 0808 2000 247
  • Canada – Go to this website to find resources within your province:
  • Australia Domestic Violence Hotline – 1800 737 732 – (live chat 24/7)
  • South Africa Stop Gender Violence Helpline – 0800-150-150
  • U.S. Crisis Text Number:  #741741
  • Canada Crisis Text Number: #686868 



Andersson, G., et al. (2015). Internet-supported versus face-to-face cognitive behavior therapy for depression. Expert Review of Neurotherapeutics. Accessed at

Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead is a narcissistic abuse survivor who has become a strong advocate for finding your unique voice and using it to help others find theirs.


  1. WOULD THIS THERAPY WORK FOR NARCISSISTS ALSO – being they got like this because of trauma ???

    1. Kristen Milstead

      Hi Jack: This is a really good question. I guess one major question would be, “Work for what?” If you mean would it work to make them not narcissists anymore, I believe that answer would be no. The reason why is that while people with PTSD have developed a disorder when they are confronted with certain triggers because of a particular event or particular events in their past, people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder approach every aspect of the world with their view and believe that the rest of the world is the problem. Even though they got this way at least partially due to trauma, and even if they want to change, they cannot just be treated for the trauma and then suddenly they are no longer narcissists. A large part of what they need to change is how they view others and themselves and how they relate to others so that they can stop “splitting” people into “good” and “bad” when they get angry. There is a lot more to it than this, but, as this is just one reason why trauma treatment is not enough. As a note, there are different types of narcissists and malignant narcissists are generally considered completely untreatable, from what I understand. -Kristen

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