Category: Breaking Up With a Narcissist

All breakups are difficult. Breaking up and going no contact with a narcissist, however, was one of the hardest things I’ve ever dealt with in my life. It has led me to start asking the question, at exactly what point does a breakup with a narcissist occur? Breakups with narcissists, no matter how you define them, don’t end well. They end abruptly, usually with the two parties having completely different narratives for the same relationship. They result in multiple make-ups, a lot of damage, and no closure. For the narcissist, however, once you enter into the relationship, it never ends. They...

One of the most difficult things about trying to explain relationships with narcissists is explaining even to ourselves why we don’t leave sooner. What we often have not recognized fully and do not give ourselves enough credit for is that leaving them isn’t just physical. Learning how to deal with a narcissist at the end of a relationship means we must leave them in our minds as well. In addition to all of the difficult steps we often have to take to prepare our physical environments for a different life without them, our mentalities must be prepared for the loss....

If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you’ve seen that moment when everything flips, when the narcissist plays the victim and you lose all sense of reality. Why do we get to the point to where we can’t tell whether our own actions are the problem? This is an idea that narcissists like to feed to their partners throughout the relationship after things start going downhill– and often to others outside of the relationship as well. [Read Mind Games Narcissists Play to Trick You into Blaming Yourself] They will say things such as that their partners are emotional...