Comments on: What We Miss About the Narcissist When We Miss Our Relationships With Them

By: Joan

Joan — Thu, 22 Jul 2021 23:05:57 +0000

Thank you so much for your blog. I’m 69 years young & 19 months out of my relationship with my narc after 13 yrs (I ended it). But it STILL hurts knowing it was never real, it was all a lie & I was used the whole time! Sometimes the grief is unbearable but yet I know I have to keep moving forward. I have so many things to be thankful for so I try to concentrate on those things! Each day is a blessing!

By: Jim

Jim — Mon, 21 Jan 2019 01:34:45 +0000

Thank you for the article. I am just coming out of one, I am 59 and have never been involved in a relationship like this, hopefully my last. She accuses me of being the narc. I still love her , but I know now it is not a true love on her part, by her actions. I cannot believe there is so much about the topic online, it has helped me a lot knowing I am not the one that has been in this situation. Jim

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Sat, 18 Aug 2018 04:41:03 +0000

In reply to Jacky.

Hi Jacky: I’m glad that you have found the articles about thinking from the narcissist’s point of view. It is really scary–that’s a good word for it. I got your private message and will write more there. -Kristen

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Sat, 18 Aug 2018 04:37:13 +0000

In reply to Ivanka. Hi Ivanka: I'm so glad to hear that the articles have been so helpful to you. They come from my heart to everyone else's who has ever been through one of these relationships and to hear they have touched you somehow helps me heal too. I empathize with the ruminations you speak of. Trying to answers all the questions is part of giving ourselves closure I think. This is just a part of the process. Stay strong and thank you so much for reading. -Kristen

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Sat, 18 Aug 2018 03:47:09 +0000

In reply to Louisa. Hi Louisa: I'm so glad this article gave you some comfort, but so sorry about what you are going through. You are not alone. Please stay strong and take care of yourself. -Kristen

By: Louisa

Louisa — Wed, 15 Aug 2018 22:30:36 +0000

Thanks for this. Two months, no contact. Going through stressful stuff and I just wish I could pick up the phone and call him. I won’t but I feel so alone. This helped a bit.

By: Louisa

Louisa — Wed, 15 Aug 2018 22:30:36 +0000

Thanks for this. Two months, no contact. Going through stressful stuff and I just wish I could pick up the phone and call him. I won’t but I feel so alone. This helped a bit.

By: Ivanka

Ivanka — Tue, 14 Aug 2018 23:10:10 +0000

I’m so glad I found your blog. You captured my feelings so brilliantly with this post. It’s been 3 months no contact and I still find myself ruminating on how he got into my head. Please keep up the great writing!

By: Ivanka

Ivanka — Tue, 14 Aug 2018 23:10:10 +0000

By: Jacky

Jacky — Mon, 13 Aug 2018 17:37:54 +0000

Hi Kristen,

Thank you again.
In some of your articles you tell that knowing more about how the narcissist thinks has been very helpfull in your process of letting go. I tool a while but now i can understand why that can help to shift the way i see him. I think from my own perspective(with empathy, solution oriented, co-dependent) that way i will keep falling for his trap. His perspective/motive is totally different and i’m ready to know more about it and start seeing him for what he is. Its scary i have to admit. It changes my view of people and it forces me to change myself. Your article about/from Elinor Greenberg and her exercise helped me to see this more clearly.

Can you tell me where i can find more insight in how the narcissist thinks and acts?

Thank you again.

Jacky