Comments on: What Narcissistic Cruelty Looks Like

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Thu, 20 Jun 2019 06:02:28 +0000

In reply to Breanna.

Hi Breanna: I am so glad you are finding the posts helpful. I’m so sorry to hear about what you’re going through…
I don’t believe it must be easy when you have children involved. Have you tried the grey rock method? -Kristen

By: Breanna

Breanna — Wed, 19 Jun 2019 06:34:50 +0000

Hi there,
Thank you so much for your posts! They are teaching me a lot. It’s so eery how similar your conversation with your ex was in comparison to my convos with my abuser. No matter what I said, he would call me down and disregard every request as well as disrespect me in every manner possible. I am struggling to escape the vicious cycle! We have two children together and one is on the way. How do I escape his evil ways when he is involved in our children’s lives?

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Sun, 06 Jan 2019 04:11:58 +0000

In reply to despair2deliverance. Yes! Such a well-written description of exactly what happens in these types of relationships. Thank you! I hope you are well.

By: despair2deliverance

despair2deliverance — Sat, 29 Dec 2018 16:24:29 +0000

This is a brief, but powerful, account of the experience of having a relationship with a narcissist. Compared to my own experience, the genders are swapped, the situation different, the words somewhat dissimilar. What IS captured here, however, is the essence, the nature of the relationship. At its core lurks something truly rotten or disordered–an inequality that has been deliberately served up to one of the partners as an equality. In a narcissistic relationship, it is paramount that one of the parties’ interests be served as a priority. What the other party receives or takes from the relationship is of secondary importance. When that basic mechanism breaks down, the rug can be remorselessly jerked from beneath the secondary partner at any moment. The reason is unimportant. But the second partner instantly feels the rasp of inequality; he or she listens to the narcissist’s words, observes their behavior, and is thrust into the realization that the narcissist was never invested in the relationship in the same way as first portrayed. It’s indeed a rude awakening. Thanks, Kristen.

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Fri, 30 Nov 2018 18:00:56 +0000

In reply to FreedGypsySoul. Hello: Thank you so much for sharing what you have been going through. You must be incredibly strong to have come so far in your thoughts in such a short period of time. I can relate to so many of the things you wrote. It is painful to read about narcissism but I feel honesty with ourselves can be the only thing that helps set us free of their influence. You are not alone! Stay strong. -Kristen

By: FreedGypsySoul

FreedGypsySoul — Thu, 22 Nov 2018 16:09:59 +0000

Today is November 22, 2018. My short relationship with my N ended on Monday, October 15, 2018. I had heard the word Narcissist tossed around about him many times, but for whatever reason, I chose not to do any research. On the weekend of October 13 and 14, he actually brought someone in to our home for sexual relations while I was out. I found physical evidence and initially kept both pictures and the evidence. I later returned the evidence as it has no value or use to me. On the Monday, when he proceeded to yell at me and tell me our relationship was done, all the while denying that he had cheated on me. I calmy asked him how that was possible when the evidence says otherwise. Even in the face of evidence, he continued to deny his actions and believe his own lies. It wasn’t until November 1 that I began reading up on N’s, which I should have a long time ago. I have seriously learnt alot and it has dramatically helped my healing process. Of all the articles I have read in the past 3 weeks (at times I’ve had more than 100 tabs open on my phone as I open each next link that I an interested in reading), this is the first one that has brought tears to my eyes. I’ve read, and understood, and related to many, I’ve felt sick to my stomach by some (Toxic Logic by HG Tudor really hurt as an eye opener) but this one, this one I cried. The reason for the tears is because you summed things up so eloquently when you said (and I quote) “The psychological transition period your brain must undergo to adjust to the new reality and navigate with no safety net is your test of how strong you can become.”

Those of us who have went thru this will grasp the strength needed to survive, and thrive.

Thank you for your articles Kristen. I certainly appreciate your openness and honesty

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Fri, 20 Jul 2018 03:46:49 +0000

In reply to Katy. Hi Katy: Sometimes it seems as if they all took the same course in how to be a narcissist! It's eerie how they even say the exact same things. Thank you for reading the article. -Kristen

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Fri, 20 Jul 2018 03:46:49 +0000

Hi Katy: Sometimes it seems as if they all took the same course in how to be a narcissist! It’s eerie how they even say the exact same things. Thank you for reading the article. -Kristen

By: Katy

Katy — Sun, 15 Jul 2018 04:30:54 +0000

In reply to Ricia Banther. Scary how exact this text convo is! Like to the letter with bad grammar and all!

By: Katy

Katy — Sun, 15 Jul 2018 04:30:54 +0000

In reply to Kristen Milstead. Scary how exact this text convo is! Like to the letter with bad grammar and all!