Comments on: Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships: What Is It?

By: Jen

Jen — Mon, 01 Oct 2018 08:06:00 +0000

I’m with ya, lady. I gave up everything to get the narc out of my life, so I would have nothing he wanted. It worked.

I’m also basically homeless, but neither you nor I will ever be a complete failure. You do what you have to do to cut the cancer out of your life. . .your children will never leave you. You’re doing them a favor. And they will respect you for it.

Don’t worry about anybody else, just do you.

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Wed, 12 Sep 2018 14:41:38 +0000

In reply to Desarae S. Hi Desarae: I am so sorry for what you are going through. You are not a failure because others have chosen to exploit you. There are times it feels as if we will never dig ourselves out. I'm glad you have your family. Thank you for being brave enough to share parts of your story. You are not alone. Please stay strong! -Kristen

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Wed, 12 Sep 2018 13:36:37 +0000

Hi Katherine: You are so welcome. It is truly my pleasure. Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment. I am glad that you are finding the information so helpful. -Kristen

By: Desarae S

Desarae S — Tue, 11 Sep 2018 20:09:23 +0000

I definitely identify with this issue. I’ve been married 3 years , together for five with my narcissist. We actually haven’t lived together for nearly two years after he kicked me out and went to my ex with horrific stories of how I was neglecting my children. (All untrue). I’m still dealing with legal and custody issues. My family just sees him as a ‘jerk’ and ‘crazy’, but nobody really understands what I’ve gone through and am still dealing with. My family is angry with me for not cutting him out of my life completely. This man has ruined me financially, I lost my job, battling to keep my kids, depressed beyond anything I’ve ever experienced in my 40 years, and have nobody to talk to. Nobody can empathize with me, while I take care of all around me. Sometimes it seems my purpose is to do for others until there is nothing left of me. I don’t know how to break out of my situation as my debt grows and I’m looking at homelessness and basically complete life failure

By: Katherine Wobst

Katherine Wobst — Mon, 10 Sep 2018 20:56:44 +0000

I have not yet read this article in it’s entirety, (bleary eyes with too much computer screen) but I read the first part and skimmed over the rest, stopping to read things that caught my attention. This, by far, is the best description of the relationship between a ‘normal’ person and a narcissist. I will read the rest in sections because so much applies to my ex-narcissist’s behavior and as I continue recovery, I am always finding new things that fit this man perfectly. Although I am not interested in another relationship with anybody, this is valuable information to know when interacting on any level with another parson. I have also recommended your page to a couple of my friends who went through the same hell as me. I am also hoping your wisdom will help one of my friends currently in a very rocky relationship with a narcissist. Thank you for sharing with the world!

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Mon, 10 Sep 2018 18:33:11 +0000

In reply to Kate W. Hi Kate: You are welcome. Thank you for reading! As a note, I am usually careful in each article to take time to be gender neutral. I thought I had done that here, and I apologize if I missed something. I do believe in using the actual genders when using someone's real experiences, however, so you will likely see me doing that in those cases. I thank you for pointing out this very important point. -Kristen

By: Kate W

Kate W — Mon, 10 Sep 2018 17:55:33 +0000

Excellent read. So true. When we try to explain the behaviors etc. it often begins sounding petty and paranoid. Thanks for recognizing it is in the shadows- and working to get the word out and put this behavior out in the open. Also however please note that women are just as possibly abusers! And gay people experience this too!
Shine a light for us! We never feel the abusers get “caught “ because they are such master deceivers! And people just don’t believe these folks exist in their own lives and families!