Comments on: 6 Reasons You Can’t Break Up with a Narcissist

By: Brittnee

Brittnee — Thu, 29 Oct 2020 21:01:13 +0000

Your work is incredible. You have helped me tremendously. I really appreciate all that you have done for all of us. Thank you so much. Brittnee

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 15:50:47 +0000

In reply to B Trayed.

I don’t make assumptions here, B Trayed, and I’m sorry for your experiences, however, I am the administrator of this website and I have chosen to represent my own experiences because they are mine, and I am now a healed survivor and I no longer take to the demands of others very well. I also never found or find offense when I see other survivors writing with pronouns that don’t pertain to my experience– I am still able to relate and I find it puzzling that you are unable to do the same. It’s interesting that you’re unable to put yourself in my shoes because I am a woman unless I write from the general and use a vague pronoun even if our experiences are similar. Why is that? That is something for you to stop and ask yourself, but it is not something for me to change… If you are offended by this, you are free to stop reading. Thank you for stopping by. -Kristen

By: B Trayed

B Trayed — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 06:02:08 +0000

DROP THE SHE IN THIS ARTICLE !!!!!!!!!
STOP THE ASSUMPTION THAT THE MAN IS THE NARC AND THAT SHE IS THE SURVIVOR !!!!!!!!
THE ONLY NARCISSISTS I KNOW ARE WOMEN !!!!!!!!!!

By: Alex

Alex — Mon, 14 Sep 2020 21:49:56 +0000

In reply to Gerry Rigley. Keep on keeping on. There is always hope that life will improve now you are rid of her. Who knows what wonderful experiences yo life might have now you are out of her control.

By: Jeanette Hager

Jeanette Hager — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 02:43:37 +0000

I didn’t know that I was married to a narcissist, and not just once but twice. I discovered my first marriage to a covert narcissist only after I discovered my second marriage was to a vulnerable narcissist or I could diagnosed him as a malignant narcissist. After my divorce, I went into that linger cognitive dissonance as she described in her post. I felt like I was on drug withdrawal, lost a lot of weights, insomnia and extremely confused for two months. I found a cure to get out of that cognitive dissonance, I want to share this wonderful discovered treatments. It’s all about our hormones in our brains. These are the supplements I took daily and I recovered after 2-3 months. 1) Supper B complex, Vitamin B5 combines with Calcium and Magnesium, 5-HTP 200 mg combines with Vit. B6, and Ashwagandha with hot water. Vitamins B complex supports brain health, Vit. B5 alleviate anxiety, 5-HTP ( serotonin and dopamine release- happy hormones). These are wonderful supplements that everyone should take, even if you have never experienced with narcissistic abuse. I didn’t take my two ex-husbands personally, unfortunately, they were abused by their own narcissistic mothers. I have a daughter with my first marriage, I was able to safe her from her father’s narcissistic abuse, I got her full soul custody. How? I used money to leverage him. That’s all he cares, money!
Thank you for the post, such a well-written on the diagnose of the narcissistic abuses.

By: Kiten

Kiten — Sat, 29 Aug 2020 17:24:02 +0000

Absolutely-on-target. I fell into it and never understood “intermittent reinforcement “ and cognitive dissonance and how those , paired with my own lack of self love and then add on top alcohol ?- And you get the perfect cocktail to get addicted to a crappy relationship. It took a long time for me to untangle my head. Like two years… And I knew it was messed up probably within six months to a year I was addicted… Not in love.

By: Gerry Rigley

Gerry Rigley — Thu, 27 Aug 2020 12:27:58 +0000

I am at present living a nightmare with the court that gave me the divorce, they have continuously ignored the many factual documents I have given them that clearly show my ex for what she is, A thief, a habitual adultress, a liar and too many other things to put here, she just ran off one day to be with her new victim, removed every penny from my personal account leaving me destitute with six dogs to feed and our house to maintain, her solicitor is as bad as she is and seems to run the court and the judges, I have just written to the court again today, if anyone would like to see my letter please write to me and I will happily share it. I am so depressed, my dogs are the only things that stop me from taking the cowards way out, I am happy to see that I am not alone in this cruel sea of sadness. Good luck and love to everyone…. Gerry

By: Ruth

Ruth — Wed, 26 Aug 2020 19:11:45 +0000

My sincere thanks to you for this article, I left my 22 year marriage two months ago – (I had been trying to acquire the courage to do this for 10 years) It was very difficult for family and friends to understand this fear, and this article superbly explains the psychological and physical response to such stealthy malignant abuse. Everything that you wrote, hit me like a “brick”, especially the section on learned helplessness – the experimental studies of the dogs blew my mind! THAT WAS ME!!! Petrified to leave, and knowing that if I stayed, I would not survive much longer. Day by day, I am getting stronger, and and your words are part of that success – again I thank you! *I had a good laugh over something with my sister-in-law and my niece the other day, and they both looked at me, and so “Oh, how wonderful to hear you laugh again!”

To anyone out there that is afraid, hang on – learn as much as you can! When you educate yourself, you become stronger, braver and slowly but surely, you become yourself again!

By: Denise

Denise — Sat, 19 Jan 2019 05:32:54 +0000

Thank you for the article. I have been in a 31/2 year relationship with an emotionally unavailable man. He is never verbally abusive, nor does he criticize me. He does intermittently reinforce my belief in the relationship, then runs if we get too close. He finally admits to the
Panic he feels. He does not set talk me, in fact, is emotionally baron. He gives small amounts of love and attention as I finally broke it off and was no contact for ten months. He came to tell me goodbye when he moved to a different state. It was seemingly very emotional for us both. Two months later he contacted me and told me all the things I had longed to hear. I feel back into a long distance relationship. We discussed plans for him to move back. He became moody and distant. He finally broke sobbing that he was afraid he’d move here, be unhappy, and leave me. He stays in a state of dichotomy. This leaves me in limbo. So many things I’ve told myself about this man. I’m not sure if he had much to do with it. He keeps me anxious by moving close, then putting distance, both emotionally and physically. It has caused me much pain, even the ten months we were broken up. Many of the facts in your article ring so true.

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Fri, 20 Jul 2018 04:31:26 +0000

In reply to Holly. Hi Holly: I'm glad that you're here, and so sorry to hear your story and what you are going through. I know this feeling of "denial" you are having, and am hoping for you to soon find your way out as well. You are not alone, and there is a path forward. Please take care of yourself. -Kristen