Comments on: The Scary Truth You Must Face About Being Involved With a Psychopath https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-scary-truth-you-must-face-about-being-involved-with-a-psychopath/ Living Through and Recovering From a Relationship with a Narcissist Sat, 13 Feb 2021 02:28:57 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.5 By: Cara https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-scary-truth-you-must-face-about-being-involved-with-a-psychopath/comment-page-1/#comment-493 Wed, 30 May 2018 01:39:41 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1484#comment-493 In reply to Hannelore H.

Dear Hanslope, the hardest part to accept is that we need to find total closure without the narcissist ever coming to insight or any form of acknowledgement (let alone apology) of what they have done or what their role was in this ending of what could have been… Their incredible self-centeredness keeps them from it. The only sensible thing to do is to shift focus away from the narcissist to our own healing process and to totally let go, to forgive them for they do not know what they have done and to keep on walking away. All of the best

]]> By: Cara https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-scary-truth-you-must-face-about-being-involved-with-a-psychopath/comment-page-1/#comment-1083 Wed, 30 May 2018 01:39:41 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1484#comment-1083 Dear Hanslope, the hardest part to accept is that we need to find total closure without the narcissist ever coming to insight or any form of acknowledgement (let alone apology) of what they have done or what their role was in this ending of what could have been… Their incredible self-centeredness keeps them from it. The only sensible thing to do is to shift focus away from the narcissist to our own healing process and to totally let go, to forgive them for they do not know what they have done and to keep on walking away. All of the best

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]]> By: Hannelore H https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-scary-truth-you-must-face-about-being-involved-with-a-psychopath/comment-page-1/#comment-491 Fri, 25 May 2018 06:08:56 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1484#comment-491 I read your info. I cannot believe that it resonated with me . It was the sentence ” I don’t know what you are talking about”.
I started Divorce proceedings after five month of this second marriage .I could never defend myself and stopped trying. I just received my Divorce after waiting 13 mos and 9 days , before the court granted it.
My now X husband still does not understand the Reason why . He is a smart man , yet is not getting it .He feels very sad and worried what people may think.

]]> By: Hannelore H https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-scary-truth-you-must-face-about-being-involved-with-a-psychopath/comment-page-1/#comment-1072 Fri, 25 May 2018 06:08:56 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1484#comment-1072 I read your info. I cannot believe that it resonated with me . It was the sentence ” I don’t know what you are talking about”.
I started Divorce proceedings after five month of this second marriage .I could never defend myself and stopped trying. I just received my Divorce after waiting 13 mos and 9 days , before the court granted it.
My now X husband still does not understand the Reason why . He is a smart man , yet is not getting it .He feels very sad and worried what people may think.

]]> By: Cara https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-scary-truth-you-must-face-about-being-involved-with-a-psychopath/comment-page-1/#comment-490 Sun, 20 May 2018 17:30:39 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1484#comment-490 Dear Kristen, I have been reading your articles religiously for the past 4 months since I finally decided to literally walkaway from a 2 year relationship with a narcissist. The healing process demands such braveness in this lonely meander through the pain in heart and mind. I have finally reacted by becoming violent towards my fiancé after yet another set of gaslighting, lies, bullying me to accept a back seat to the ex, emotional abuse and belittling me for every attempt I made to set my boundaries and my attempts to talk about how hurtful that behaviour was towards me. I am deeply ashamed for my aggressive reaction. I have unconditionally apologized towards the narcissist for my behaviour that evening. I am also ashamed for allowing such an unhealthy lopsided relationship to have gone on for far too long. Always believing the extreme self-centeredness etc. will end. I mourn the person, my naivety in giving so much of myself, the loss of hope and dreams and self respect. My eventual aggressive reaction has become the proverbial stick to hit me with as “physical abuse” is a far greater “sin” than the damage of years of emotional abuse caused by the narcissist. I am in therapy and look forward to this depression to lift and be the person once again I know I am and even better and more aware. Thank you for your bravery in sharing. C.

]]> By: Cara https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-scary-truth-you-must-face-about-being-involved-with-a-psychopath/comment-page-1/#comment-1054 Sun, 20 May 2018 17:30:39 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1484#comment-1054 Dear Kristen, I have been reading your articles religiously for the past 4 months since I finally decided to literally walkaway from a 2 year relationship with a narcissist. The healing process demands such braveness in this lonely meander through the pain in heart and mind. I have finally reacted by becoming violent towards my fiancé after yet another set of gaslighting, lies, bullying me to accept a back seat to the ex, emotional abuse and belittling me for every attempt I made to set my boundaries and my attempts to talk about how hurtful that behaviour was towards me. I am deeply ashamed for my aggressive reaction. I have unconditionally apologized towards the narcissist for my behaviour that evening. I am also ashamed for allowing such an unhealthy lopsided relationship to have gone on for far too long. Always believing the extreme self-centeredness etc. will end. I mourn the person, my naivety in giving so much of myself, the loss of hope and dreams and self respect. My eventual aggressive reaction has become the proverbial stick to hit me with as “physical abuse” is a far greater “sin” than the damage of years of emotional abuse caused by the narcissist. I am in therapy and look forward to this depression to lift and be the person once again I know I am and even better and more aware. Thank you for your bravery in sharing. C.

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