Comments on: The 5 Possible Ways Relationships with Narcissists Can End https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/ Living Through and Recovering From a Relationship with a Narcissist Sun, 08 Oct 2023 19:51:11 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.5 By: M https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-68093 Sun, 08 Oct 2023 19:51:11 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1293#comment-68093 In reply to Kissa.

Hi, Kissa,

I am so sorry to hear what you were going through…nobody deserves such treatment. I hope you are doing well and you managed to get rid of this horrific person & situation. If you need to talk to someone,pls let me know …I now more understand how it feels to be so lonely, nobody being able to validate your feelings without judgement. …just to be there and listen. The only person that I could open up was his mother, because she was the only one who knew who he was behind closed doors….
I hope you are doing perfectly well now and pls let me know how your story ended / need to talk.
I must admit that the real stories are giving me the strength to stay NC, because they are making me realise that it could be worse…

]]> By: kristen robbins https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-16947 Sat, 28 Sep 2019 22:48:07 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1293#comment-16947 Thank you! I need your help very bad!!

]]> By: Julia S https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-16937 Sat, 28 Sep 2019 02:18:52 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1293#comment-16937 What if you decide to leave , you can do it and he knows as your past relationships were all narcissistic ones and when you left the others you never looked back and he knows this as he witnessed hoovering with no outcome from them exes , and the moment he really believes you will leave( just once , but for good ) which would have happened , he kills himself with you packing upstairs . He took a bunch of medicines and went in cardiac arrest and the ambulance ( his misfortune probly never considered in his mind) was not properly equipped to undertake cpr from me and by the time second ambulance came his brain was deprived of oxygen to a point of no return. How do I get my missing pieces back from him? I wanted him to live, to see himself forgotten as my other ex es. I wanted him hoovering so I can spite him showing him I meant what I said when I left him. He knew me all too well. I feel miserable after more than 1 year. How do I claim myself back from a dead narcissist? Would appreciate an insight on that. Thank you.

]]> By: Furaha https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-16655 Mon, 02 Sep 2019 13:35:36 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1293#comment-16655 I feel that these men are somehow demons in human bodies. I have a man like that. I prayed and hoped that he changes, but no. He’s getting worse by the day. I feel am so unlucky to endup in such a relationship. Have decided to go no contact after he told me that our children are mine alone and I should just go on with them. I’m so tired and I don’t feel a thing about him anymore.

]]> By: Carissa https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-16648 Sun, 01 Sep 2019 09:08:26 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1293#comment-16648 I have been with my “fiance” for 10 years and we’ve been engaged for the last 3&1/2. It’s like from the moment the ring hit my finger he completely flipped a switch. Started ignoring me, blowing off plans, not answering my calls, I noticed him giving me dirty looks, and the wedding plans…psshh, it was like I became invisible. I’ve been pretty certain that he’s cheating since shortly after, but he has never admitted it. Not even in the face of tons of circumstantial evidence (a near empty box of condoms in his car, a woman’s phone # written down, secretive with his phone…all the classics)! Now he’s become angry and has begun coming out with the fits of rage! Yesterday our entire house got destroyed because I got another woman asking “where’d she go” on my phone that I left recording when I went to dinner with my aunt! He now has me questioning my sanity by denying that anybody else was here. He’s now telling me that I make these types of things up and then start believing them! He refuses to even listen to the dang recording because he says it has to be fake or something I made up! Everything inside of me is telling me I can’t do this anymore but I can’t seem to make my feet move! Or make my heart believe this is over or never was real to begin with!

]]> By: R https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-16480 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 12:11:59 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1293#comment-16480 In reply to Kissa.

Though I don’t know you. These men are evil. I am on my own now. I am ill. It is scary being alone. But the alternative is far worse.
I am learning to enjoy the peace of mind and silence. I have read many stories. But I wanted to reach out. Don’t be afraid of being on your own. You will attract good people again. God bless (empath/Co dependant or God knows what label would be put on me. The whole lot is crazy making). Hope you get away. God bless

]]> By: rachel https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-16064 Sat, 13 Jul 2019 13:41:25 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1293#comment-16064 I’m literally shocked you’re describing my boyfriend to the tea. I’ve always thought of him as the greatest guy and he can’t be this word. But the truth is as soon as he makes me feel like I’m the greatest person on earth and we’re soulmates he says something nasty or does something mean. And then of course disappears. And I realize I’m never gonna see him again and a week later he pops back into my life after i started healing And says of course I’d never leave you were soulmates. And the same behavior repeats itself. Tells me I need a nose job so I can be perfect for him. I need to lose weight so I can be his trophy wife. He said he doesn’t mean to be insulting it’s just everything else is perfect . I keep saying I’m going to get out of the relationship that was his name pops up on my phone I can’t ignore it. It feels like an obsession

]]> By: Kissa https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-15915 Sat, 06 Jul 2019 04:53:08 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1293#comment-15915 Hello.
I had no idea I was in such a relationship. I didnt understand why I could allow myself to be treated so badly. I would never stand for such treatment against a family member or friend. I would have helped to find a way out for them. Then I heard the word narcissist. Just a week ago.
11 yrs I have been in this turbulent relationship. Thinking the entire time…. I have NEVER been this loved nor this hated my entire life. What a fool ive been. He spent past 5 yrs in prison for beating my face with a hammer. That was the last physical beating I took. Mind you I would certainly choose the beatings with his fist than the ones with his mouth. He got out of prison and came to me 3 months ago. I actually believed, once again, that he needed me, wanted me that he had changed. He knew what to say to make me believe it. I told him my address. He showed up and took everything. My home, I was living in an RV I had managed to buy while he was incarcerated. He took my car and made sure that I couldn’t work again so I could not replace any of it. He put me in the car drove me several hundred miles and took the clothes off my body and dumped me on the road. The embarrassment was overwhelming. The fact I believed him AGAIN.
He now text me all the time letting me know he needs me. He has a way of making me forget how evil he can be. I’m scared because being alone at my age is just scary. But I don’t want to be treated this way any more. I feel so worthless and as he puts i. “I’m taking up good peoples air” I’ve prayed to stop breathing. But I think God has left me too.
I’m scared he will return. Restraining orders are just pieces of paper. I’ve had them on him for yrs. I’ve hidden but He has always found me. Hurt my family to get me to come out of hiding. Now my family no longer speaks to me because that’s what he wanted. Me to have no one so all I would have is him.
Please if anyone finds them self in a relationship with a narcissists it won’t EVER change. The person will always make u think it will but truth be told it won’t.
Don’t live in fear. Like I do. I have no one now and not sure I can trust again.
Good luck to you. Get out while your still sane and still have some knowledge of yourself. Because the longer ur in it the further you get from who you once were.

]]> By: Kristen Milstead https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-15756 Sun, 30 Jun 2019 17:48:28 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1293#comment-15756 In reply to Laura.

Hi Laura: This article refers to the psychological aspects of what happens if you stay, and you bring up a point that, practically speaking, there are circumstances where leaving may not be possible in the immediate future or may not be the best decision and, in any case, would require much more strategic or long-term planning. In that case, there are still some steps you can take to try a form of “emotional no contact” while you decide if leaving physically is the best option for you. It’s called grey rock. You can read more about it here: https://fairytaleshadows.com/what-is-grey-rock-how-to-go-no-contact-with-a-narcissist-if-you-have-children/ Thank you for your comment. I wish peace for you and your children as you decide how to move forward and navigate the relationship. -Kristen

]]> By: Laura https://fairytaleshadows.com/the-five-relationship-outcomes-if-youre-with-a-narcissist-which-one-will-you-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-15755 Sun, 30 Jun 2019 17:12:01 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=1293#comment-15755 How do you leave when you have teens/kids and no money?

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