Hi. You can just read it as woman gf, wife, instead of husband. Read it as something else maybe instead of wanting people to write it as something else

2 years later no contact and I’m an empty shell existing day to day.

And … if your spouse is ultimately adamant that you do NOT look inside his wallet or at his cell phone, iPad, or computer, then something is wrong! Narcissistic spouses are continually hiding money and information from their spouse. It is a major red flag when a spouse wants to take over ALL finances for the home or when a spouse does not want to discuss finances as a team.

You are welcome, Maria. Thank you for taking the time to read the article. Stay strong! -Kristen

Hi Kalan: Thank you for reading the article. If you read a general article that is written in the third person about narcissistic relationships in general, that might make sense and 99% of the time, that is exactly what I do, as you will see if you read others on my website. However, as the title gives away, this is an article written in the first person about my personal experience. I was in a heterosexual relationship with a man, so it wouldn’t make sense to even use neutral language in this one. As a woman, I would never write to a man who has been through one of these terrible experiences and ask him to write his articles in a way that makes me feel more comfortable. If male pronouns feel off, their/there should feel off as well, since they don’t apply to women or to men. So perhaps you can perform a thought exercise and put yourself in my shoes since our experiences have been so similar — it doesn’t seem as if it should be that hard. I’m sorry for what you have been through. We’re all in this together — let’s direct our healing energy in the right direction. Peace and light to you. -Kristen