Comments on: Ten Things That May Happen in a New Relationship After Narcissistic Abuse

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Thu, 13 May 2021 14:25:47 +0000

Hi Lisa: This is the program I recommend. Susan L. Brown has over 30 years treating women in these relationships. Her program is research-based, and she just finished developing a program to train therapists that has gone live this year so more therapists can be knowledgeable on this topic. It’s reasonably priced and comprehensive: https://saferelationshipsmagazine.com/living-recovery-program-4

Take care,
Kristen

By: Lisa Mello

Lisa Mello — Wed, 12 May 2021 01:21:58 +0000

In reply to Kate.

Good evening Kate..

I am so glad to see this about NARP…I was in such a abusive narc, marriage for 6 years to long, its been 3 years and I have since fallen very much in love, but like the above story, I have pushed him so much, I don’t think he will come back one more time…So, I guess what I am asking is how well did this program work for you, how helpful was it, I feel at this point I will be alone for the rest of my life, ..Sincerley Lisa….

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 05 May 2021 00:23:36 +0000

This is all true but it also feeds the myth that the trauma of narcissistic abuse needs to be long term. There are healing programmes that can create huge shifts and complete healing in just a few months. The best one I know of is Melanie Tonia Evan’s Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Programme (NARP) It changed my life and I cant recommend it more. Its possible to actually feel better than you did even before the narc abuse. This neednt be a life sentence. And I also believe that we should try wherever possible not to carry this kind of trauma into a new relationship – it will make it incredibly hard to succeed and there’s no need if proper emotional-body healing is carried out.

By: Dismal

Dismal — Mon, 05 Apr 2021 16:13:44 +0000

I totally relate to all that has been said in this article and I thought it was just me – on my own as a man alone. It’s taken me 4 years plus to get my head back in to my space. Alone. But I don’t think I could have read this even a year ago. Time heals. It hurts and I will push it in to my past folder and learn. I have met a lovely lady and will move on. And I have been to war with the army. That was much easier because I was trained to go to war. I wasn’t trained for this.

By: Shatina

Shatina — Tue, 29 Sep 2020 15:49:26 +0000

I’m happy that I found this article. I wish there was a group I could be apart of to discuss these pains. I notice I sanatorium every great person that comes in my life. I have difficulty identifying what’s natural behaviors.

I’m ready to go to therapy. I’m frightened to tell my boyfriend. I think I already pushed him away.

By: Lindsey Queen

Lindsey Queen — Fri, 24 Apr 2020 10:08:59 +0000

In reply to Corazon.

I really understand your feelings. I flip flop from feeling “fierce” or strong to being overcome by feelings of guilt for staying with my abusive ex-husband.. most of the guilt is for the pain and impact it has had on our children, my parents, boyfriends, even friends. Then, my intelligence takes a blow.. I often have said “I’m the dumbest smart person I know” lol another coping mechanism, humor and sarcasm. I am forever changed, but still completely ME.. humble and kind, happy, forgiving, loving, but never ever will I be so naive. I’m grateful to have somehow fought off the bitterness that honestly, I’d have every right to let take me over after the mental and physical abuse I’ve endured over the past 10 years.

On a lighter note, I do feel like I have reached my strongest and most defiant point of whatever it was my ex and I were doing. I genuinely feel like this is THE last time. I have no desire to take him back and it’s the best feeling ever!

By: Corazon

Corazon — Tue, 21 Apr 2020 15:32:19 +0000

I had to go through most of these with my abuser… of course he never understood why. We tried to make things better for so long and I explained to him why I was feeling the way I was. All of this and more. Now it hurts so much but I have to live through this again… it never goes away and it’s always with me. The memories, the scars and the bitter truth of choosing to be with someone like him

By: Lindsey Queen

Lindsey Queen — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 09:41:55 +0000

This is the most powerful and helpful article/workbook I have ever read on removing yourself from narcissistic abuse and I’m only on chapter 2 I believe. It has already helped me recognize and validate all the feelings I was having during the abuse. I am overwhelmed and also so grateful to have found this and I pray that it reaches other victims of narcissistic abuse. If only I had found this years ago! I’ve gone to therapy for nearly a year and have gotten so much more from this. Thank you thank you thank you for sharing your wisdom and understanding, especially being we have a tendency to revert back to self-blame for the abuse. You truly are a life saver and I vow to share this with anyone who will listen or read lol

By: Michel

Michel — Tue, 24 Dec 2019 19:09:44 +0000

I whish I had read this article before. I was discarded in what felt somewhat narcissistic in treatment by a woman who survived such tyran for 27 years, having 3 deeply scarred children…
I still care for her, love her, although her word left deep scars as well and in her going back to him, still being influenced by his hurtfull words, she created a very big distance between. I know she’s deeply unlucky now, but her youngest son keeps pulling and pulling, manipulated by his father… which saddens me…