Comments on: Should I Tell People I Was Abused By a Narcissist?

By: Christal

Christal — Fri, 05 Apr 2019 01:48:27 +0000

PS I don’t want my picture posted. Please take my picture off. Thank you!

By: Christal

Christal — Fri, 05 Apr 2019 01:46:10 +0000

Thank you so much for this post, Kristen! I had to deal with a lot of this with two ex-boyfriends, but mostly the second one. Talking about the empathy factor, the best way to say it is (1) people who care and understand, (2) people who care but don’t understand and (3) people who don’t care. It only comes down to those two things. They either don’t understand or they don’t care. One of the questions not mentioned is ‘Does opening up cause a fight to break out?’ or ‘Will the other person bring up the past that has nothing to do with the abuse?’ They would be the third category if the answer is yes. The reason I added those is because I personally get them and it happens every time.

By: Bob

Bob — Fri, 05 Apr 2019 00:23:17 +0000

Thank you once again Kristen for this thought I’m not out yet . almost . i have only two people i talk to about my situation an i think they both fall in the second cat. Unknowingly say things that don’t help. Simply because they have not lived it. As of lately i have just curbed my talking about it with them seems better. As far as someone in the future possibly a partner i feel it would almost have to be a prerequisite that they know or have experienced NPD. I also feel that is going to really narrow the possibilities an may not find.
Kind of a fear that’s contributing to me delaying my moving on.

By: Suz

Suz — Thu, 04 Apr 2019 18:27:43 +0000

Hi Kristen
You are spot on with this post, my best friend from childhood was my constant and was with me every step of the way. I was at breaking point and she got me to go to counselling to try and find out what the hell was happening to me. My other best friend, a work colleague listened to me, I asked her if she believed me, her reply “well I can’t really comment cos I don’t know her”. I was gutted!
Others just didn’t think it was anything to get upset about as it really does sound ridiculous that another person can get you into such an anxious state therefore you end up looking pathetic and a victim. I no longer have contact with my narc even though she’s within the family. I wouldn’t wish this abuse on anyone!
Thanks for all your help in explaining how, why and what happens!