Amen

I’m in the same situation. It’s so exhausting, mentally & physically. Praying we can get back to living someday, cause this feels like death.

Throughout my relationship I can relate to nearly all of the points that you make in your article. I just kept making excuses up for my partners behaviour and went from being someone who was reasonably confident to someone who question everything that I said and did in my relationship. Through counselling I was shown and identified for myself that I was being subjected to someone who was very manipulative, had no boundaries and would twist every situation for her own gains. She was very adept at portraying the victim, I would try and set boundaries and challenge her behaviour but she would make me feel that my reactions were abusive and I would back off. The signs were there very early on in my relationship but I was blinded by my love for her and continued to ignore the advice of my close friends. I eventually took control of my life and ended this relationship. There was a final twist in this very shortened story. My ex who had lost control of me then went to the police with a series of false allegations. This was my lowest point, I nearly lost my job and life but the love of my close friends and counselling got me through. It took nearly a year to clear my name and now after two years I’m finally free from this trauma. I am starting rebuild my life and confidence. Trust is really difficult for me but I know I am on a journey and will eventually meet my soulmate. I would encourage anyone on here to seek professional help to guide you through living and breaking up with a narcissist. Talk to your friends as well. Finally, there is lots of information out there to help, with the articles written here being particularly useful. Keep strong, you will get through this.

Jahanne reading your post is like looking into my life at this very moment. I to have been on a 5 year roller coaster ride with a toxic relationship. I am now just realizing how very toxic it was from reading articleson this subject. All the mind games are just world spinning to me. My ex shows up at my house or in my neighborhood to hoover also. Everything in your post is exactly what has been happening to me. I’m trying to get past this craziness. It’s like I’m waking up from being blind for so long and I’m like wth is going on. I really don’t know what to do at this point. I have blocked him from contacting me on my cellphones, but that just makes him want to come around my house. If you lived in Georgia I would think we was talking about the same man.

Sounds like my ex. Who ended up making another woman pregnant while my father was dying from cancer. Cause he wasn’t getting enough attention.
I know it’s hard, but leaving now will always be less than what can happen. Do a 10 day Vipassana, it will help in learning you to stay strong and give you tools to deal with the emotions arising when you are no longer together.

I was in the same boat for the last several years although much of it was brought on by Huntington’s disease that my husband had. We eventually separated because his mind games ended up costing me physically and emotionally. It is the such a horrible thing to deal with.