Comments on: Is My Partner a Narcissist? How We Trick Ourselves

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Sun, 13 Jan 2019 21:51:59 +0000

I waa engaged to a guy like this and just broke it off. I tried breaking it off many times. He kept running back apologizing. I have done it for good. Follow your gut!

By: Allison

Allison — Thu, 13 Dec 2018 01:52:31 +0000

It’s been 7 months and although he’s reached out several times I’ve ignored all but one to respond as to why I left after my discard and to hear myself express myself to him. I did not connect with with him and after I left him that text I told him to stop contacting me. It set me back a couple of weeks but I’m still glad I stood in my power and spoke up. Now I have no desire to speak to him. I’m doing a lot of inner child processing with my therapist so that I don’t do this again. I will done it my entire adult life and I’m ready to take responsibility for me part and to keep the no contact going. Thank you for your work.

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Sun, 21 Oct 2018 23:33:18 +0000

In reply to Kathleen.

Hi Kathleen: I know what you mean. It’s difficult to free ourselves from what I call the “negativity” of wanting to see bad things happen. I had to keep telling myself that that was what he would want– even if he was having a hard time, he would want me to see it and have a reaction to it. Any way he could try to control my attention in his own way would have been providing him with some kind of fuel. You’re absolutely right– they don’t care, and that’s why I think it’s such a good idea to stop focusing on them. They are only focused on themselves and don’t deserve our focus too. -Kristen

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Sun, 21 Oct 2018 23:15:12 +0000

In reply to Kris. Hi Kris: Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment. I can relate to what you wrote. Sometimes the amazement that I escaped and that all of that actually happened was and still is like a dream to me. The way you describe it is perfect. -Kristen

By: Kris

Kris — Fri, 05 Oct 2018 00:43:56 +0000

I always feel a simultaneous heartbreak that this happened to someone else, but immense relief when I read your page. We survivors all think and feel so alike. My own therapy is ongoing and I am coming to terms with the fact I was basically in the presence of evil. I feel like I got out of bed, looked down and saw some deadly snake or spider in the sheets that somehow didn’t kill me while I was asleep. Yes, I survived, but coming so close to obliteration takes a serious toll.

By: Kathleen

Kathleen — Thu, 04 Oct 2018 23:26:11 +0000

Spot on!! Really true stuff. I’m so glad to be through most of it all. I’m mainly still in the ruminations on how the new one is possibly enjoying the honeymoon phase still. It’s almost a year so I can’t imagine she’s not getting bad treatment yet… but There’s no way for me to validate that so I still torture myself- bummer huh. Even though I have all this information and know I’m better off without-i crave the failure and vindication. Aaaaarrrrrggggghhhhh – just look at our president- they just “get away’ with all their bs and they the narcs-never get hurt- because they don’t care.