Comments on: How to Know If a Narcissist is Finished With You

By: Maria

Maria — Sun, 04 Jul 2021 14:30:30 +0000

In reply to Karen. Karen!!! We are in the same situation!! My narc actually made up a lot and told everyone I was cheating on him.. Come to find out that his wife found out about us and told him she was done lol lol lol!! He then had to find something wrong with me and started to turn my like upside down, I am angry but I am healing

By: Jessie

Jessie — Fri, 14 May 2021 23:53:46 +0000

Your article helped me tremendously understand exactly what is happening to me and every word you said is exactly what I’m going through. I know I have to end it although it is easier said than done. You mentioned a narcissist long lists of supply and he has that. No wonder why everyone seemed to be going in circles including myself. Now everything is a lot clearer to me.

By: Karen

Karen — Tue, 23 Mar 2021 02:44:13 +0000

I grew weary waiting to see what my married narcissist might do. I renewed my revulsion to being “the other woman” then wrote the narcissist a polite note saying I was getting busy elsewhere, and thought a clean break was the best idea for me. Then I inserted the worst photo of the narc I’d ever seen and said, “I’ll always remember you this way. Goodbye and all the best.”
Haven’t heard a peep, which suits me fine. Indifference is all I can muster now, and that beats anger, resentment and sadness any day.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Tue, 19 Jan 2021 22:29:22 +0000

I have spent my whole life with narcissistic men beginning with my father. I have just left another narcissistic man after putting myself through 4 1/2 yrs of love and then abuse only to continue on the same hamster wheel again and again. I am now 53, please god let him be the final one. I have gone no contact but he always seems to find a way, I am strong and have no intentions of ever letting him gas light or hoover me back to his destructive way of contorting the truth and blaming me for everything and then in the next breath telling me how much he loves me and misses me and can we please go on holiday together when this pandemic is over…. totally mental, but I am not mental even though he’s tried his hardest to convince me that I am. I am sane enough to get away from him and no longer put up with his narcissistic, messed up personality.

By: Erika

Erika — Fri, 19 Apr 2019 06:44:26 +0000

In reply to Debra Isaac.

That’s exactly how my knowing of his NPD surfaced. I spent so much money on marriage counseling only for me to look like the crazy one while he played the victim dealing with my erratic outbursts. Mind u I was not shy to express my erratic side in therapy so we can be given the help we needed while being our selves and not some fake person who will gain nothing from therapy. Therspist didn’t mention anything about narcissism but one Christmas eve my ex narc left mw stranded. I turned to Pintrest for inspirational quotes to occupy my time and uplift me, when all of a sudden I start seeing articles about narcissism and I too felt like I was reading my life. Once I tore off his mask, the abuse got worse. I take one day at a time. Congrats on ur joirney to recovery

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Tue, 26 Mar 2019 23:29:47 +0000

In reply to Unkowning Monster.

Hello: Thank you for your comment. I find it really interesting and insightful. What I know is that narcissism really exists on a spectrum, although it’s easier and useful to think of narcissism as “categories” of individuals. There are many professionals who do treat narcissists successfully. Some cannot be treated. I don’t know if you are one of them who can be treated, but perhaps you are. I don’t even know if you desire to change–but I brought it up because often when people are in emotional turmoil, that’s what drives them to try to make these kinds of major changes in their lives about how they are interacting with the world. Whatever you decide to do, I hope you find peace and the strength to forgive yourself for the things you have done and to move forward with this new insight into yourself so that you begin to recognize that it’s never too late to strive to be your best self. -Kristen

By: Unkowning Monster

Unkowning Monster — Tue, 26 Mar 2019 21:31:28 +0000

After reading articles to discover the reasons for my disastrous past actions, I discovered, both I and my wife are narcissistic sociopaths. Until then I never knew that such a disorder even existed, let alone the effects on my thought and actions. It is a shock to one to realize that you were not in the real world at age 60. You cannot hide or change if you do not know that the disorder exists. I take responsibility of this mess, as I should have understood my actions and those of my wife. Thought of ruining and losing my family and friends, makes me strongly to desire to change my behaviour. The emotionally and financially damage is done and cannot be corrected, as one cannot travel back in time. I am like the walking dead at the thought that I have destroyed me, my family, relatives, and friends. I have lost everything; family, health, pension, processions, heirlooms, the house, car, reputation, love, and trust. I like the emotional feeling resulting from helping others. I was highly driven to obtain research results not for my gain, but for society in a highly competitive field. Often my thoughts and actions at home and work do not make sense now; and some are illegal, unethical, and stupid. The narcissistic sociopathic traits are from genetic factors, as I never was devoid of attention, had a happy life, and no trauma. I will never see my loving daughter again from this mess, as she is studying in France. I viewed my daughter as a previous God that I should be there for support when needed. I can vision the tears and terror when the mess erupts. Remember in my mind, I was conducting appropriate research and providing a home for family; not inappropriate actions and thoughts. Even if I do not go to prison or die, there is nothing to support my family and that nothing can be changed. No matter what direction or action I take, someone will get hurt. Donald Trump, Roger Stone, and Associates have a better chance of success. I want just to correct things and ease my memory of those wronged, then disappeared. Since this hell and the one in the after life will be, I would not wish on my worse enemy. So how do you explain to the ones that you love that they the have no future because of a mental disorder starting grade one that was not recognised until a year ago?
I exhibited classic behaviour traits of the disorder, such as high ergo, irrational thoughts, anger at some issues, believing I was competitive while it relay was insecurity, believing that I was correct which was wrong c, poor listening skills, went from one unfinished project to another, disregard for some of the rules, poorly designed projects, stealing even if I did not want the object, was a hoarder, addictions to food and went from one research group to another when a project needed skills (opportunity to myself). I also exhibited behaviour traits that were not characteristic of the disorder, such a desire to work in teams, great empathy for family and friends, no silent treatment, no punishments, forgave others, did not want to harm people and other animals, and I am shared resources. So, if I was not a narcissistic sociopath, then what am I?
If some of my friends and colleagues were in the mental health profession, then why was my disorder not detected? Similarly, why wife was not diagnosed when she attended for counselling to over come childhood trauma?

Since I feel like the walking dead and a non-functional parasite to society, any suggestions on what can I do? At times the situation appears to so bizarre that it does not seem real. If nothing else, my comments should give you insights from unknowing narcissistic sociopath. be glad that you are a survivor and not the one destroying future and wasting of lives to those you dearly love.

By: Missy

Missy — Sat, 16 Mar 2019 02:25:59 +0000

My ex has gone so far as to contact my son, who is a grown man, because I have gone no contact. He has been blocked on fb, my home phone, my cell phone and messenger. I have gone so far as to delete his name and all pictures from my iPad. I feel so much more calm and serene with him out of my life. Your articles give me the strength to keep going. I read them when I feel weak and vulnerable. Thank you.

By: David

David — Thu, 14 Mar 2019 14:26:45 +0000

Thank you. I so desperately needed this. You perfectly described my last ”relationship” of the past 4 years. I had been convinced that so many things I saw, felt, or perceived were ”in my head,” or, ”[me] digging for answers instead of leaving things alone.” Odd, isn’t it? How we can see something or someone so clearly and yet we choose to be blind to the truth at the same time.

By: Debra Isaac

Debra Isaac — Thu, 07 Mar 2019 11:43:09 +0000

In reply to Sara.

Married 20 plus years thought of his ongoing personality blips were due to his addiction s and chronic pain ( he had back surgery in his 30’s) I left many many times and finally had to have him removed from our home via the law.
Yes ! It got that bad . We had been to many counselling sessions I alone went. No one mention Narissism. I just started reading an article one day about Narcissism and felt like I was reading my life. They never accept blame , they control your world ( or try), projection .
I even ready an article where it asked the partner of a narcissist, Are you sleep deprived?
He started so many arguments before bed and then would just roll over and sleep while I lay there in complete anxiety. I can’t believe this is my life ! I cannot believe I just am getting it now . They the narcissist do not change ! We need to change ….. I’m exhausted . Yet so ready to embrace a new lease on life .