Comments on: Narcissist Gaslighting Examples in Romantic Relationships

By: Lori

Lori — Mon, 18 Jan 2021 19:23:17 +0000

The Kevin-Allie examples are EXACTLY spot-on and what narcissists truly say and do, no exaggeration. They literally say the opposite of what they said seconds earlier. Re Susan’s note-taking, this also spot-on. Once when I started taking notes my narcissist grabbed the sheet of paper out of my hand and ripped it up. He didn’t want any “proof” of what he said. I never tried it openly again. He’d rage and say something and seconds later said the opposite. I’d say, “But you just said…” and he’d yell, “Forget what I said! Now I’m saying this…” I could list 1000 examples. The lies and gaslighting were like breathing to him — automatic and primal.

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 22 Mar 2019 02:18:52 +0000

At one point recently I took notes and let him talk during a conversation on the phone. After approximately 30 minutes he finally petered out and I said, “wow you have covered a lot of ground and in order to keep my thoughts in order I took notes. I didn’t proceeded to address each point he made when he tried to interrupt me fairly quickly I asked him to please honor and inspect my Time to address the things he said. He did until I finished and after a few times of trying to blame shift damn gas light to which I also responded after allowing him to speak uninterrupted he ended the call. I haven’t heard from him since. We are still married though separated and there is still more to deal with but this is a very effective tool to maintain clarity for the abuse victim. Great article thank you for sharing.

By: katie

katie — Thu, 07 Mar 2019 20:49:34 +0000

I think stage 3 when you finally hear the contradictions and begin to take notes, privately and secretly record brief conversations to check and recheck your recollection of events – this is when you are at your most vulnerable. You realize that the abuse has been there all along, that what you had feared was true – that you were being INTENTIONALLY abused. And whilst you may feel weak and ashamed or embarrassed at being so cruelly abused without recognizing or wanting to believe this was happening, THIS is when you are at the point of immense strength and power / because it’s then that the narcissist has been identified. It’s also when I’d implore you to seek advice and become more knowledgeable so you can survive and thrive
Thank you for helping so many with your work x