Comments on: How Narcissists Ruin Holidays: It’s Not Your Imagination https://fairytaleshadows.com/how-narcissists-ruin-holidays-its-not-your-imagination/ Living Through and Recovering From a Relationship with a Narcissist Sun, 02 Jan 2022 12:16:56 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.5 By: Stephana https://fairytaleshadows.com/how-narcissists-ruin-holidays-its-not-your-imagination/comment-page-1/#comment-45520 Sun, 02 Jan 2022 12:16:56 +0000 https://fairytaleshadows.com/?p=5849#comment-45520 I have a friend who is a “vulnerable narcissist”. I have had to distance myself from her before because of her behavior. It can really mess up your emotions. Well,, this year she ruined a holiday by starting an argument about something not worthy of an argument.I tried to explain .. tried to be empathetic but also honest. She would not let up…She said “I guess it’s time to go” and I said ”’Yes it is.”
So as she left I told her in a very quiet but direct way “go away” and locked the door.I was ready to SCREAM at her but knew that wasn’t the right way to deal with her I also wasn’t going to let her start a fight ..which is what she wanted me to do. She is a whiney drama queen when she is in this crappy state.When your in the midst of it..it’s sometimes hard to stay calm because she is pushing pushing pushing!!!Oy Vey!!
Why is this person in my life? Because she has good traits as well as bad…We are both creative people.
I try to see the good.

I will NEVER receive an apology..I don’t expect it.not from a narcissist.I did write her a letter (not mean but honest..)telling her that I will have to keep my distance from her for a while .
I’m starting to get less patient.I have been a very good friend to her over the years but this latest episode wasn’t necessary…especially with what we have all been through with the Pandemic.
I’m sure she is miserable now but guess what?. It was completely unnecessary and she ruined what would have been a really enjoyable, mellow holiday.And she gave me lovely gifts..But what good are gifts if you treat the person your giving the gifts to like a dish rag?Kinda kills the enthusiasm doesn’t it.

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