Comments on: The 5 Stages of Going No Contact with a Narcissist

By: Matthew Joseph Perusco

Matthew Joseph Perusco — Fri, 22 Mar 2024 06:51:02 +0000

This is a loving and well stated article. I can only imagine that the book is more detailed and even .ore enlightening. Thank you for sharing this painful, however hopeful message of truth.
God bless you.

By: K

Mon, 11 Oct 2021 08:55:35 +0000

Good article. Getting over a narcissist is really hard and takes time. Men such as ***** in Finland hide what they are very well. Almost 60 and he is still using, abusing and trashing women. Narcissism cannot be normalised. It is abuse behind closed doors.

By: Jeannette

Jeannette — Sun, 25 Jul 2021 05:53:38 +0000

Hi
This was very interesting I have a family member with these traits . Can they be helped?
Or are they just born like this? Thank you for posting. J J . WILLS
FEMALE

By: Carol Z

Carol Z — Sat, 03 Apr 2021 19:04:47 +0000

In reply to Kristen Milstead. I will check that out! I've never heard of that concept. THANK YOU SO MUCH! I follow you, and you're a big help to people like me who have dealt with narcissists. Much Love to you!

By: Kristen Milstead

Kristen Milstead — Sat, 03 Apr 2021 05:17:33 +0000

In reply to Carol Z. Hi Carol, I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. The idea of radical acceptance has helped me a lot. You can google that to read more about it, but it's basically the idea that we decide we will stop ruminating over the way things should be or should have been, and accept the reality of what they are. When we do that, we become less helpless and feel less like a victim of our circumstances. It doesn't mean we like what happened or agree with it or condone it. It just means we stop trying to fight with it in our minds, because a lot of our misery comes from not being able to change it. When we just accept that we can't change it, then we can see it more clearly and start to have a different perspective and think about what we might want to do next. This is just one idea, but, like I said, it's something that has helped me. Stay strong and take care. -Kristen

By: Carol Z

Carol Z — Sat, 03 Apr 2021 02:11:10 +0000

I have been no contact with my family for 6 years now. I have been no contact with my son for 1 year. I can never get over the feeling of wanting a reconciliation….that they will change their ways, and want to be a family again. And, that my son will “see that he was wrong, and feel bad he abandoned me.” In my head, I KNOW this won’t happen, and if it does, it’s a lie setting me up for more Narc Abuse. But in my heart, I am still filled with grief that I cannot recover from, nor release.
I know I have PTSD. I believe I have healed from it, mostly, but cannot stop the rumination.
My dad died in 2015 and this caused the family split. I stopped being the scapegoat. I have gotten over grieving for my dad. But, I cannot mend from my family. I think about them every day. I can’t find any advice out there as to how to mend my heart and quit longing for them. how to quit reminiscing about the past and our “family,” and how “great” it was. My head is in constant conflict with my heart. Any advice?

By: Noah Jansing

Noah Jansing — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 03:08:53 +0000

This is really good.

By: Nicole Sellin

Nicole Sellin — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 20:30:24 +0000

This is one of the most powerful, accurate articles I gave read up to this point about this subject, and I have read many. The psychological stages are spot on... the nuances of the emotions, the fear, the guilt, even the feelings of anger at myself for not keeping my word and staying gone, like I had promised friends/families I would do. Not only was the narcissist a liar but so was I. And the learned helplessness, the paralysis,I knew I couldn’t remain but I felt too weak to leave. The shame that I had allowed my life to become this sad, small world that I couldn’t bear to be in but was too scared to make changes, and that I kept hope and live alive for a man that deserved neither. And the cataclysmic end, the tsunami washing through and carrying everything away. Now I’m rebuilding...my hope, my confidence, my trust in others and myself, allowing the shift to help me heal and recognize things in him and myself that I didn’t want to see. Thank you for this