Comments on: 7 Narcissist Lies That Are Easy to Spot

By: Kelsey Lenihan

Kelsey Lenihan — Fri, 21 May 2021 13:08:21 +0000

Oh my goodness, #5: “all of my exes were…” is so spot on (all of them are, actually). This declaration from my narc ex husband SHOULD have been my first red flag of many. We had only been together for a few weeks; I was working night-shift as a nurse and he was out of town visiting a friend. I worked nights all weekend and when he returned the following Monday, he sheepishly, with major hesitation and regret at even having to ask me this (all part of the act, obviously), asked if I was really at work Saturday night. I was nearly offended at his not believing I was until I got the rest of the story. Stupid me. He told me that his ex-girlfriend blew his phone up furiously after she got to her car in a restaurant parking lot (where she had allegedly seen me with a couple of girlfriends) to find all four of her tires completely slashed. The moral to HIS story: “stay away from her. She’s crazy.” Come to find out, according to him, all of his exes were crazy. Shocking.

It took me a few years to realize that he would make up these horrendous lies about his exes to show me just how toxic THEY were and how it was obviously best for me to steer clear. Well, unfortunately for him, I reached out to one. Then another. And another. Each and every one of them are perfectly sane, absolutely wonderful, and more than relieved to have moved on from him. And then, shortly after our divorce, the girl he dated during and after our divorce proceedings contacted me. She was heartbroken but hurt by his behavior. We met up that night and talked for hours. And then all of us exes became friends and share stories about the absolutely ludicrousness and callousness about this absolutely beautiful, but completely heartless man.

I, however, am the only one who had a child with him. So yep, coparenting with a narcissist. Scary and almost compounds the existing normal motherhood tasks, challenges and struggles. As much as I want to regret my relationship with him, because of our daughter, I cannot. But you can bet your bottom dollar that I do everything I can to empower her and let her know her opinions are worthy because I know he is doing his very best to make her his narcissistic pawn.

By: K

Thu, 04 Mar 2021 22:23:12 +0000

These statements really hit home for me- spot on , each one. You have no idea how much this article has effected me . It came in my email on a day that I felt hopeless and confused even though I had left the marital home. In a constant confused state I just knew I had to get out. I feel like I have a resource that is going to be invaluable and I am excited to read more . Thank you thank you , thank you

By: Cathy

Cathy — Thu, 28 Jan 2021 21:49:02 +0000

It took me a while to figure out what he was doing but my husband would ask ME if I was doing the very thing he was doing. One day he asked me out of the blue “Darling, do you have a lover?”. The day he asked me we were in month six of COVID lockdown and spending 24 hours together. What possessed him to ask this question when there was no possible way I could see my friends & family let alone manage a secret love affair, I couldn’t fathom. But a few months later when he moved out I got my answer. HE had a lover. And they were carrying on an emotional affair on social media for a few months before he left. I realized that he was just dying to tell me about his affair because he was excited about his new girlfriend and wanted to tell someone so bad he was going to pop. And asking me if I was cheating was the closest he was willing to get. Listen to the questions they ask you. They could be big clues into their behavior and what they are up to.

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 28 Jan 2021 19:20:56 +0000

All of these outrageous patterns and habits are true. To avoid further drama and frustration, go NO CONTACT and let someone else deal with this loser. They won’t change. Will you?