Omg i have never heard someone describe the character of my mother and our waste of a relationship like you did just now. I can’t believe that you no and have the experience in your life exactly is mine. I’m so sorry for you as I know it has been a mind **** for me to the point where I don’t even care anymore she’s a ***** and she’s caused enough damage so last my lifetime. Thanks for sharing what you did it certainly makes me sad but relieved at the same time [admin edited]

Hi Simon: Now that is a very interesting idea. I find myself getting lost in these philosophical thoughts myself at times too: what does it mean to be human? What is love? What is evil? Whose reality is “real?” You may enjoy reading Neuroinstincts, a website by a neuroscientist named Rhonda Freeman, who discusses the brains of narcissists and psychopaths. There is also a book called The Wisdom of Psychopaths I found interesting, about how the brains of psychopaths work across many different contexts. It’s difficult to read if you’ve been hurt by one, but it helped me to learn a lot. I appreciated your comment. Thank you for taking the time to leave it. -Kristen

I think a family of origin study would be very interesting. I can document this abuse cycle through three generations in my family. It does not surprise me to see it in two of yours.

We have a misguided sense of what love is. The relationship hurts, It feels like home.

I have recently started to realise that my first encounter with a narcissist was not my ex but my mother… funnily enough I remember telling him in the early days that his behaviour was not acceptable as for some reason it was making me feel those same horrible feelings I felt as a child..
Over the years my relationship with my mother has been on and off and she will entice me back with her initial caring mother act only for it to change when she cant keep it up.. after my horrific ordeal with my ex, she contacted me and was supportive at first but just a few months on she told me that she was bored of hearing about what happened to me and I was living in the past now and had to let it go.. this was after I probably told her no more than a handful of things that he had done in just a few conversations via email. I have been away from this man only a matter of months after he beat me and abused me for a year resulting in me having to flee my home and the country with just the clothes on my back in fear of him killing me… but in my mothers opinion after a few months it was becoming boring to hear and I was stuck in the past and I should have let it go by now…. I realise that no mother would be that cold unless she was also a narcissist

Hi Lizzie: I’m so glad to hear this! This information was so helpful to me once I sorted through the information and research on different types of narcissists and their self-awareness and motivations. I believed it could be useful to others. I hope you are well. Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. Stay strong! -Kristen